brianjames601 Posted December 16, 2009 Share Posted December 16, 2009 Had a great first lunch date and planned another. We scheduled a monday or tuesday lunch; and when I called sunday night she said she had plans both days could we please schedule for later that week. I said Thursday would be fine and she said Wed. would be better as it would give us more time. Well, I called Tuesday night for directions to her house, as she wanted me to pick her up, and she didn't answer nor did she respond until this morning. Her message said "Hi I'm out and about(she called right around when I was supposed to be picking her up) (nothing about message I left) and I think we had scheduled for Thursday so I'm just calling to confirm this". How should I reply respectfully yet without allowing her to think I'm ok with her treating me like this; if I should reply at all? Thanks everyone Link to post Share on other sites
Yukikazi Posted December 16, 2009 Share Posted December 16, 2009 Plans were for tonight actually.. no worries.. have fun Then don't call her again Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted December 16, 2009 Share Posted December 16, 2009 she just kicked you in the teeth therefore you shouldn't reply at all Link to post Share on other sites
New Again Posted December 16, 2009 Share Posted December 16, 2009 I like Yukakazi's answer a lot...but probably I would just text her back "Your pants are on fire." Link to post Share on other sites
boogieboy Posted December 16, 2009 Share Posted December 16, 2009 Dont call her, let her call you, then call her out on her fib. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted December 16, 2009 Share Posted December 16, 2009 Call me when you get your head out of that guy's lap Link to post Share on other sites
D-Jam Posted December 16, 2009 Share Posted December 16, 2009 How should I reply respectfully yet without allowing her to think I'm ok with her treating me like this; if I should reply at all? Thanks everyone Respect? What makes her deserving of your respect? Don't call her anymore. She doesn't see you as anything of importance. You chasing her more is just going to push her to either become a bitch or stop answering the phone when you call. You giving her a "piece of your mind" will only make her roll your eyes and make you out to be the bad horrible ******* and she'll justify her behavior as "he's not someone I'd want to get involved with...look at his attitude" All you can do is move on and not bother. If she suddenly calls you wanting to get together then you can give it to her and lay down the law. Link to post Share on other sites
Yukikazi Posted December 17, 2009 Share Posted December 17, 2009 I like Yukakazi's answer a lot...but probably I would just text her back "Your pants are on fire." He just needs to stop talking to her. She isn't worth it anymore. If she calls tomorrow acting like she is waiting for him due to the plans.. thats when he tells her "Actually they were for yesterday.. but can't talk.. gotta go.. buhbye." hang up. But you have to say this in such a tone that says "I really don't give a ****.. no hair off my back" Ignore her for a few weeks or forever Link to post Share on other sites
New Again Posted December 17, 2009 Share Posted December 17, 2009 He just needs to stop talking to her. She isn't worth it anymore. If she calls tomorrow acting like she is waiting for him due to the plans.. thats when he tells her "Actually they were for yesterday.. but can't talk.. gotta go.. buhbye." hang up. But you have to say this in such a tone that says "I really don't give a ****.. no hair off my back" Ignore her for a few weeks or forever Eh, I would still text her "Your pants are on fire." I definitely agree he should ignore her thereafter....I just personally tend to call people on their ****. Link to post Share on other sites
Author brianjames601 Posted December 17, 2009 Author Share Posted December 17, 2009 Ok thanks everyone for your replies and I am definitely taking your advice to not return call. That kind part of me really wants to believe there is a legit reason for her behavior, but I will not be taken for some chump either. It took me a while to sort out in my slow brain, but I would appreciate some feedback on what I have come up with. 1)The whole process of not returning this call really has nothing to do with her---as it won't affect her anyways--it's all about setting standards for myself in relationships with women---I have been cutting out energy draining people from my life for some time now and I need to remember to transfer over these standards with women I may date also 2) While I may still feel a little hurt today--by tomorrow I will have compassion for this individual because she must be hurting to behave in such a rude manner 3) Another lesson learned and I will be back at it--meaning living my life and improving myself as I really am not part of the "dating scene"--I tend to wait for bizarre spiritual forces to place certain people in my life! 4) I won't judge her anymore because what goes around comes around and I probably have a lot still to come back to me:eek: Thanks again and I'm once again reminded of how, if I don't keep myself in check, a beautiful women can mess with my head! Link to post Share on other sites
Sharon1961 Posted December 17, 2009 Share Posted December 17, 2009 Ok thanks everyone for your replies and I am definitely taking your advice to not return call. That kind part of me really wants to believe there is a legit reason for her behavior, but I will not be taken for some chump either. It took me a while to sort out in my slow brain, but I would appreciate some feedback on what I have come up with. 1)The whole process of not returning this call really has nothing to do with her---as it won't affect her anyways--it's all about setting standards for myself in relationships with women---I have been cutting out energy draining people from my life for some time now and I need to remember to transfer over these standards with women I may date also 2) While I may still feel a little hurt today--by tomorrow I will have compassion for this individual because she must be hurting to behave in such a rude manner 3) Another lesson learned and I will be back at it--meaning living my life and improving myself as I really am not part of the "dating scene"--I tend to wait for bizarre spiritual forces to place certain people in my life! 4) I won't judge her anymore because what goes around comes around and I probably have a lot still to come back to me:eek: Thanks again and I'm once again reminded of how, if I don't keep myself in check, a beautiful women can mess with my head! Brian, I think you and I must have been twins separated at birth. Just substitute "intellectual man" instead of "beautiful woman" in that last sentence and you have exactly what I've come to myself this week. Not the exact same scenario but someone messing with my head. If you want, look at it this way - the woman you're dealing with has her own path to walk and her lessons to learn. No need to get angry or aggitated. But do get out of the way. It's not where you wanna be. It seems to me that you're doing great!! Link to post Share on other sites
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