scatterd Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 I am wondering what the OW would give her MM for christmas?I still feel hes cheating and I thank you friends for listening I need to catch him thanks to you all!
Owl Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 It depends on how canny the two of them are. If they're not real smart, it could be something very personal. New cologne, new undergarments, jewelry, etc... If they're worried about getting caught...it could be anything, and would probably be something deliberately 'vague' that couldn't be used as proof of cheating.
2sunny Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 there are other ways to find out. what methods have you looked in to?
confusedinkansas Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 We used to give each other items we both would enjoy - (we were both married for 1/2 the affair) Such as - A gift card to our favorite restaurant - or a bottle of our favorite wine to share. I did give him something personal the last time we were together.(He was divorced by then) A coffee table book for his new apartment - of our very favorite place to hang out together. Quite memorable. I wonder if he still has it............NOT!!!
Lizzie60 Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 I am wondering what the OW would give her MM for christmas?I still feel hes cheating and I thank you friends for listening I need to catch him thanks to you all! That is certainly NOT the way you'll catch him.. What if he has something new? and what if he tells you that he bought it himself? are you going to say 'No..no.. you got that from another woman'.. he'll laugh at you... You need to get more solid proofs..
2sunny Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 i will say that when i found out she had given him a coffee mug - i took it out into the yard and threw it as hard as i could against the house. it broke into a million pieces... just like i did.
Author scatterd Posted December 16, 2009 Author Posted December 16, 2009 your right he just lies to me I really want proof but I cant catch him.Our realationship changed after almost 17 yrs.of being together.I dont beleive in cheating but Im thinking of getting rid of him.I have met the most sexy younger man and he wants to see me I have told him I might after im out of this so called realationship.I quit drinking for 3 yrs. for our realationship ,my back is tattered and I have lost 4 members of my family and he desides to do this while I am down.I thought he was the most wonderfull man in the world.It has been hard on me he is self centered.I am sorry to be so mean but I am fed up and falling out of love.look back at my other post the shoe is on the other foot now.Sorry for showing so much anger but the OW might be surprized on what kind of man their getting We should come together and not put up with their lines.Thanks again for reading.
datura_noir Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 Look for the ever popular homemade CD of favorite songs....or a book. Or, if the AP is not too bright, a designer watch or personal accessory that remains at the workplace or underneath a pile of insignificant crap stored in a catch-all place in your home... Christmas and V-day always arrive before or after the usual date in affair world.
datura_noir Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 Just want to add- It feels GREAT to have the attention of a hottie after a betrayal...but enjoy it for what it is, and don't use it as a place to hang your hat.
OWoman Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 Look for the ever popular homemade CD of favorite songs....or a book. Or, if the AP is not too bright, a designer watch or personal accessory that remains at the workplace or underneath a pile of insignificant crap stored in a catch-all place in your home... Christmas and V-day always arrive before or after the usual date in affair world. I bought my H a classy watch for christmas one year after his old one broke. His kids remarked on how smart it was, but I don't think his (then-)W even noticed it. Other than that, yes, books, music, clothing - the kinds of gifts I'd get for any guy friend. I was tidying the bookshelf the other day and I could tell instantly where each book had come from - which he'd bought, which he'd gotten as gifts, and from whom. Same with his clothes, and his music. You'll know it if you see it. But, as Lizzie says, it's still not proof. If he denies getting it as a gift, or even claims you got it for him as a gift, remember? you will need more than suspicion to support your claim.
bentnotbroken Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 I would give him a pooper scooper and hefty garbage bags.
hopesndreams Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 Any gift he receives can easily be explained away. Your best bet is to find the gift he has bought for her. Search the house, garage, his car for something that is squirreled away for that special day. I once found a dress, not my size, in an old washing machine. I hope she enjoyed the dress, minus a few buttons and a good sized tear.
Once Bitten Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 I bought him the autobiography of Jeremy Clarkson and he bought me a lilac scented candle. Very generic on both. Agreed with above posters, this is not how you will catch him. Use a keylogger and/or a recording system. You need to be more clever than he is and believe me you will be surprised to learn how clever he is.
2sunny Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 Any gift he receives can easily be explained away. Your best bet is to find the gift he has bought for her. Search the house, garage, his car for something that is squirreled away for that special day. I once found a dress, not my size, in an old washing machine. I hope she enjoyed the dress, minus a few buttons and a good sized tear. OMG!!! :lmao::lmao::lmao:
Brokenlady Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 hopesndreams is right. DM bought me a music box one year. His xW was suspicious and had a habit on constantly rooting through all his things. She found the music box buried underneath a ton of crap in his car. She mentioned that she found it and wanted him to give her "her present" early because she liked it so much. But by then, he'd already given it to me. He had enough class to not ask me to give it back, but I did end up ordering an exact duplicate online for him to give to her. In the meantime, he fed her some crap story about how he had to send it back to the manufacturer for repairs because it was broken when he bought it. I still can't believe I did that. I should have just let him twist in the wind (deal with his consequences) instead of saving his butt.
Author scatterd Posted December 21, 2009 Author Posted December 21, 2009 Thanks for your replys im so tired of seeking for answers but he is on the computer alot. Thanks again friends
2sunny Posted December 21, 2009 Posted December 21, 2009 Thanks for your replys im so tired of seeking for answers but he is on the computer alot. Thanks again friends does the computer show the history? or is he deleting the evidence? have you installed a key logger so you can see what he's doing on the computer?
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