noclobber Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 (edited) I have a crush on a girl that works in my company. She and I work in different departments though. We had some casual conversations earlier this year and then I asked her for lunch and she agreed. It went very well but she did mention about an ex that was lurking around (she also said that she is single during the lunch). After a while we did lunch again and I asked her if she wanted to go on a walk on a mini trail that is located near our company. She readily agreed but on the day we were supposed to go she bailed out. She sent me an email 45 minutes late and said she was working from home that day and couldn't make it. I took that as she not having a strong interest in me (not sure why she agreed in the first place). At this stage I was a bit confused as she talks very well with me and is also a bit touchy. I thought I should take my chances and ask her one more time on a proper date before writing her off. So a week later I asked her for a movie and she gave some excuse. So I realized that she is not interested in dating me. Fast forward couple of months... we continued to have polite and fun conversations but I gave up on dating her. But she was the same though... talking well, gently touching me, gently rubbing my arm etc. She is also fine with me touching her hair, arms, thigh etc. On Monday I happened to run into her and she said she was a bit upset. We then talked and she told that her ex blew her off completely when she went to his place to return his clothes and stuff during the weekend. He was in the house but did not come out to get his stuff while this girl kept banging the door. To add insult to injury there was another girl with him in the house. All this made my friend feel very bad and she finally realized that it was over. She told me that she finally got closure. I know there is little chance but I was wondering why she had to tell me about her break-up. Also, I think that the reason for her past behavior was because the ex was still in the picture. Ladies, would you tell a guy that is interested in you about your break-up? I almost feel like I have a chance with her again. I am confused and wondering what to do - should I give her another shot OR based on her previous behavior I can safely conclude that she is not into me? I would greatly appreciate advice/responses. She is leaving the company next week as her contract is getting over. So I need to act fast. Edited December 16, 2009 by noclobber
Author noclobber Posted December 16, 2009 Author Posted December 16, 2009 can someone plz advice me? i need help
GorillaTheater Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 My opinion? You're the Girlfriend-with-a-Penis that she feels comfortable unloading her emotional crap on but that's about it. Touchy-feely stuff aside, I think you've been friend-zoned, my friend.
Author noclobber Posted December 16, 2009 Author Posted December 16, 2009 My opinion? You're the Girlfriend-with-a-Penis that she feels comfortable unloading her emotional crap on but that's about it. Touchy-feely stuff aside, I think you've been friend-zoned, my friend. oh dear... i knew that this might be a possibility. so i just give up on her? i really do not wish to be a girlfriend with a penis
SoulSearch_CO Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 LMAO...while I think it's very possible, what GT said, I still don't see the harm in asking ONE LAST TIME. It's not like it's going to do any harm - she's leaving, anyway. If it's another embarrassing brush-off, you know you won't have to see her in person much longer, anyway. But at least if you give it one last shot, you won't always have to wonder "what if."
D-Lish Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 Don't ask her out again! She's blown you off twice already. She enjoys your friendship- nothing more than that. If you were the right dude for her, she would have followed through when you asked the last two times.
Author noclobber Posted December 17, 2009 Author Posted December 17, 2009 hmmm... so one person says ask her out for the one last time.. another says don't.. what do i do? i am confused... today a friend saw she and I interact in the kitchen and later he told "dude, why is that girl always so happy to see you? she is like 'come to me you sexy'.. what's happening man?". obviously i did not tell him that couple of months ago i asked her out and got blown twice
callingyouuu Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 I don't think that there's really any harm in asking her out once more. If you really want to know, then go for it! But... If you were the right dude for her, she would have followed through when you asked the last two times. ...for the above reason, I wouldn't have too high expectations for her response.
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