Wiriest Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 If you been dating a guy.. maybe u like him, he's cool.. but it's not like you're certain this is the one, it's still up in the air.. And he loses his job. But he says, you know what, I'm just going to take the year off. I got some cash saved up.. and I'm just going to do nothing. How would you feel? (My thinking is, she shouldn't feel nothing. "Cool.. you bum" .. or.. so now I'm coming over everyday to bother you since you are a bum) But my paranoia makes me think some women would unveil their evil dark side and all the negative self-esteemy things would make them somehow feel "less". You know, some people .. I guess if their "man" is unemployed, makes them feel unemployed, or.. loser.. you are who you associate with, etc.. So.. how would you feel? BTW, this is for people past college...
phineas Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 I'd say if the dude was let go from his job he better get looking NOW because it may take him that yr to land something.
Pizzaman81 Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 He's in the denial stage. "Eh, it's not too bad, heh... I mean, i've worked so hard, I deserve a break." 5 months later "Ok running low on cash" 1.5 years later "Hey buddy, I'm trying to get home, but I don't have $1 for the bus fair, can you help out?" Depending on his current wealth and situation.... he should look for another job with urgency. It's not easy to land jobs these days anymore.
faf Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 Start looking now is good advice. I lost my job but own my home free & clear, car's paid for, and I have enough to cover the bills with a little extra through unemployment. The loss of discretionary income eats at me more than her and has stressed the relationship a little. The job I landed in August begins in January. A year may look like a nice vacation but the more empty time you have on your resume is that much less competitive you will be against others when searching for a job. Take the saved money and invest it overseas, gold or silver, a hard currency mutual fund like Merkx, or stash it in a foreign currency like the Yen. Use as little of it as you need until you find your next job.
phineas Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 A year may look like a nice vacation but the more empty time you have on your resume is that much less competitive you will be against others when searching for a job. Yep. My buddy is in human resources & the first thing he thinks when he sees a section of unemployment is "WTF did he / she do for that yr?" & they go to the bottom of the pile.
espec10001 Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 He should start selling drugs because that's all the kind of jobs that are going to be left soon...
Author Wiriest Posted December 16, 2009 Author Posted December 16, 2009 Well I don't want to say exactly but I got a bundle saved up.. say, 10 years working fulltime putting away into savings, 401.. etc. Also looking to maybe go to school, work part time, etc. But, my point is, I give her the impression that I don't want to look for work and I hate my field, basically like saying, I quit the "real world" because it's stupid and stressful and for me, at this moment in time, ain't worth it. So I'm taking unemployment, have a savings, basically, on my own, I'm in perfect shape. I actually, for reasons only I know, wanted to lose my job. I was suffering mentally.... So she knows that. But, every once in a while she throws in a "but hope u work by then" and I can't tell if it's in a "I hope you.." or a "you better.." way. She's cryptic. I'm submitting resume's.. mostly to cover UI, but I'm not desperate and kinda enjoying the fact the Job market sucks. My question really is this: Here I am, flying high like it's a breezy sunday afternoon. I'm hitting up the mall, goin to the beach.. woooooo having fun. I'm loving this. Like I'm a kid.. I think she's thinking same thing you guys are.. like dude, are u sure you should be having such a jolly time here??? And I say without hesitation hell yes. I'm doing what we're SUPPOSED to be doing.. we.. humans.. you know.. living? So, to me, that may imply I'm not looking at a future with her. Because, if I were, I would be thinking.. house, kids.. get married.. thus, job is important. But since I'm not, maybe she'll see that as.. you know.. me not seeing her long term. But that might not be the case.. To me my sanity is more at stake right now, and work was making me insane. I ain't worrying about finding a job.. I'm sure I'll get one. That's why I'm not worried.. I never worry. But she don't know that....
espec10001 Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 Dude I was unemployed for a year trying to find work after graduating and it SUCKED. It was nice for like the first month then it was like why am I getting up in the morning? Being unemployed is not fun after a while, unless you have so much money you can live off that and just yuck it up, but I never had that much money.
Author Wiriest Posted December 16, 2009 Author Posted December 16, 2009 Yep. My buddy is in human resources & the first thing he thinks when he sees a section of unemployment is "WTF did he / she do for that yr?" & they go to the bottom of the pile. I prepared for this part.. First.. the economy.. shouldn't be too big of a deal people having a big gap now because everyone knows the economy situation. I can say, I spent that time re-evaluating what I really wanted. I never really took vacation this last 8 years.. I'm positive that won't effect me at all, if it does, I wouldn't want to work for souless people anyway.
Author Wiriest Posted December 16, 2009 Author Posted December 16, 2009 ESPEC.. yeah.. I'm at the one month mark now. But I'm loving it.. I really did look into my financial situation.. rent, food, basically, my current spending I could continue as is for a few years with my savings. Worst come to shove I have 3 family members with homes within 20 minutes with spare bedrooms.. So worst situation.. I live at family member's home, which if FINE for me, but maybe not for her.
espec10001 Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 Yeah but what happens if you spend all your savings? If anything I would use my savings if I had A LOT and invest in my own business venture. I'd take the opportunity to find a way to make money doing something you enjoy. You got a big window of opportunity.
alphamale Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 But my paranoia makes me think some women would unveil their evil dark side and all the negative self-esteemy things would make them somehow feel "less". You know, some people .. I guess if their "man" is unemployed, makes them feel unemployed, or.. loser.. you are who you associate with, etc..... naah, women just care if their man has ca$h
faf Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 Wiriest, Your situation sounds like mine about 7 years ago. After 13 yrs of full employment I quit the job (no UI for me), cashed in the 401k, and paid off everything with plenty to spare; debt-free life is a good life. Your 401k takes an early withdrawal hit but I'm guessing you're not too concerned with that now. She may worry you're going through a mid-life crisis or that you're being irresponsible. Give her a plan. Continuing education would be a good move for you, her, and your resume. What do you want to do after your fun in the sun is over?
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