Rorocher Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 I'm taken, he's taken. He's just a neighbor who I think may have checked me out once or twice but m'eh, that was probably just my imagination/ego leading me on. I see him on my bus every day, sometimes we say hello and make small talk, other times we don't look at each other. In any case, it goes without saying that nothing is ever going to happen because we are both in relationships. But I'm sick of this silly crush I have on him. It's innocent yes, but It's been going on too long and I just want to be over it. I don't want to pick my outfits in the morning with him in mind anymore. I no longer want to style my hair and apply my make-up flawlesly in hopes that I'll run into him. I don't want to look good for him anymore..ugh, it's exhausting. But yet every morning as I'm dressing up, I find myself picking my most flattering outfits even after I've scolded myself not to. It doesn't help that I do like dressing up anyway...I just amplify it because of him. Anyway, I want the crush dead, how do I kill it? We do have to take the same bus, at least 3 times a week, that is unavoidable so I can't exactly stop seeing him. I already don't talk to him unless he talks to me first, I don't even say good morning unless he says it first. But that doesn't help much because he does talk to me sometimes. What are other measures I can take to be done with this crush thing?
boogieboy Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 Once you convince yourself that you dont have to look good for him every day, youre on the right track. Once you convince yourself that youre not enjoying this crush, you'll be good. Its all in your head. But since you enjoy this too much, you wont be able to stop it. You dont want the crush dead until you stop working towards it. Stop talking to him, stop dressing up for him, stop looking forward to seeing him. It will take mental work, but unless you stop taking the same bus, youre doomed to enjoying the crush.
carhill Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 Fascinating stuff. Any opinion on how close this is to an EA? IMO, real close. Great advice. Ride a different bus or find another mode of transport. NC. It will fade.
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