Wiriest Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 I have it!!! The holy grail answer to why BOTH men AND women SUCK!!! Because.. we have mouths.
Author Green Posted December 16, 2009 Author Posted December 16, 2009 Life IS what you make of it. Life IS what you think it is. YOUR perception is reality. So what you THINK about the opposite sex colors YOUR reaction to them, it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy, and you act out PRECISELY what you believe women (and the world to be). WE truly are our greatest enemy. ---------------- If a man (or woman) has a jaded, negative attitude toward women (or men), they deflate and diminish their own energy. To paint a picture of this at work, think of how you behave when you are confident and excited about going out versus when you are dejected, negative, and cynical about going one night? In 1 example, you deactivate your own power and energy, in the other example you activate and amplify your energy. This isn't SECRET bull****, but rather common sense about how the human mind works. LIFE is not etched in stone - it is what it is BASED on you entirely. In all cases that I went out to "have fun" with friends and just engaged in the moment, acted positively, confidently, and activated, things flowed - not because I NEEDED them to ... but because I had no expectations but confidence in myself and love for the moment. Guys who sulk have already cast their own doom. I see this in friends. When we've gone camping and there's 150 co-eds in very tight quarters, opportunities are all around them, but they sulk because the current REALITY does not fit their truly NEGATIVE outlook. They desire to be light on fire, when THEY must light themselves on fire. Put another way, visualize 2 women. The first is a mopy, sad, despondent, negative, yet cute girl, and the other is similar in looks, but her attitude is positive, uplifting, proactive, and fun. The Negative girl is seeking to be turned and uplifted by a man, while the Positive girl wants to bring HER energy into peoples' lifes. Who would you approach? Who would approach you? Who would provide IOI's about whether to approach and your chances? THE HAPPY ONE. The one who doesn't NEED to be activated or turned on by the emergence of a man (or woman), but who ACTIVATES HERSELF - this is SELF-sufficiency at its Penultimate: Your Own Mental attitude, your feelings, your outlook on life, etc. THAT is true self-suffiency, independence, and personal responsibility. You don't have to BUY what I am saying - however, such 'laws' (which I use loosely) still govern you anyways. Sulking about what IS or isn't does NOTHING for you. Nothing. And that's all you care about. Not Gloria steinem, feminism, the media, the state of dating or divorce - none of that matters. If we disregard that and deal only with ourselves, our ideal 'partner', and that reality, none of that other BS matters! It really doesn't. I used to post ALOT on other message boards, but I have since given up. Only on the occasion I see a post where I feel people are trapped in their own maze and can't emerge do I post. The point is - no one can give me advice. The point is in figuring out myself. In the NOT KNOWING of what life is. In the mysteries of these situations. Of the chaos of life. Of designing LIFE along my lines for me, with no reliance on others or 'emotional leaning.' ~DV Most people buy into some one elses perception of reality maybe putting there own slight spin on it. If you are to date and deal with these men and women you can't be completly autistic and turn life into what ever you want. Negative realities do exist and I personaly am not affraid of them most of the time but it doesn't change with my possitive attitude for them and that shouldn't be ignored.
threebyfate Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 The main reason why anyone believes the opposite sex sucks is that when they facilitate certain actions, they EXPECT a certain result. In essence they try to control, rather than allowing connection to happen and if connection doesn't happen, it's blame-game time. If you look at this, it all stems from personal insecurities, whether it's insecurity hence the need to control the entire process or insecurity, due to refusal to accept personal responsibility for what's perceived as ineptitude. People should seriously worry less about FORCING an outcome and if an outcome doesn't happen, shrug and move on.
Author Green Posted December 16, 2009 Author Posted December 16, 2009 So yes, the man and woman in your post do suck. Really, it’s the roles that they don’t question and decided to accept that suck, though. I enjoyed your anlysis of my origional post but hope you understood that the man and woman in my post was how I see society as a whole. I agree roles need to be questioned and not just accepted as if under hypnosis. I have it!!! The holy grail answer to why BOTH men AND women SUCK!!! Because.. we have mouths. Thats very punny The main reason why anyone believes the opposite sex sucks is that when they facilitate certain actions, they EXPECT a certain result. In essence they try to control, rather than allowing connection to happen and if connection doesn't happen, it's blame-game time. If you look at this, it all stems from personal insecurities, whether it's insecurity hence the need to control the entire process or insecurity, due to refusal to accept personal responsibility for what's perceived as ineptitude. People should seriously worry less about FORCING an outcome and if an outcome doesn't happen, shrug and move on. I'm a man and I don't just think women suck so I include men, yet I'm not trying to force any kind of romantic actions with men so can you explain that?
threebyfate Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 I'm a man and I don't just think women suck so I include men, yet I'm not trying to force any kind of romantic actions with men so can you explain that?My post is generic, for either men or women, so it's not necessarily applicable to you.
Waitress Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 I'm a man and I don't just think women suck so I include men, yet I'm not trying to force any kind of romantic actions with men so can you explain that? It's because you don't have appropriate boundaries or a strong enough sense of self. At least that's what I've come to see about myself.
Author Green Posted December 16, 2009 Author Posted December 16, 2009 It's because you don't have appropriate boundaries or a strong enough sense of self. At least that's what I've come to see about myself. the previous poster was being general but I tried to get her to apply my negative views of my own gender even though I am straight to dismiss her arguement. I think there are truths in everything people said but in my mind these short commings are undeniable and that was the real reason I made this thread, because people deny the negative and refuse to see it for what it is. By the way would you happen to know if some women find it rude to be called a waitress these days? as oposed to the gender neutral server
Waitress Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 By the way would you happen to know if some women find it rude to be called a waitress these days? as oposed to the gender neutral server I worked as a waitress to put myself through college. These days I'm a business owner but in my heart I will always be a waitress. So, sorry, can't answer your question.
Crusoe Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 Be they man or woman, anyone who has more good in them than bad, is good enough for me. I reckon that covers the vast majority of people, therefore in my book, very very few people in this world suck.
AD1980 Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 I realize women want entertainment and you need to be exciting to keep a women happy thats why I put men down for being boring. And yes you probably are boring but seems like your a smart guy who has done well for himself so why not treat a lucky lady to some adventure and not be so boring Why do women consatnly need to be entertained like children? WHy does the Man have to provide all of it and not the women?
threebyfate Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 the previous poster was being general but I tried to get her to apply my negative views of my own gender even though I am straight to dismiss her arguement. I think there are truths in everything people said but in my mind these short commings are undeniable and that was the real reason I made this thread, because people deny the negative and refuse to see it for what it is.People, including myself, tend to generalize based on anecdoetal information. But for every fit, there could be 1000s of non-fits to "universal truths" and every attempt to gendercide is highly counterproductive. Even "women suck and men lick" can be deconstructed.
betamanlet Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 Why do women consatnly need to be entertained like children? WHy does the Man have to provide all of it and not the women? Because women control all of the sex. So if you want some, you have to play the games and entertain her.
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