changedman Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 I wanted to ask the question; Should I mail my mother-in-law a X-Mas card and/or give her a gift even though my wife of twelve years (together twenty) & I are separated and headed towards getting a divorce? The reason I'm asking is when my wife and I first separated she was really trying to help me save my marriage even though her daughter is the one who wants the divorce. Then, when my stbxw called for me to meet her over to my mother-in-law's house to sign the papers and I refused, because she tried to get me to sign some papers she printed off the internet, my mother-in-law and I stopped talking and haven't spoke to each other since which was back in Sept. So, should I or should i just leave well enough alone?
imagine Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 Naw! Send her a card. How she takes it is her business. Don't bear a grudge, ever. Avoid those you dislike. Fix the ones that you can. A card may do it for your MIL. Make it a nice card and leave out the last incident.
BearMox Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 gah. dont let the bitter "taking sides" thing rule you! even if she is the type of mother in law that condoned and sheltered infidelity, invite her out for coffee and tell her sorry you couldnt have done more and that you want to stay friends with her and stay in touch. after all you are only dissolving what you and your wife had. if you dont your mother-in-law will only know the version of you your ex told her. eww. my 2c.
Itried Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 Be a man, always take the high road. Your actions will speak volumes.
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