xoxo88 Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 Can you recover in 4 months after a 3 year relationship ending? I'm afraid i was just a rebound for my ex. I'm just curious how you can figure out if you were just a rebound. There must be something in what he does or say that tells you you're just a rebound.
Kic Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 Four months may or may not be enough time. Depends on the person and the relationship, of course. I suppose they may tend to talk of their ex if they are still in rebound mode, or compare you to the ex. Perhaps they have unreasonable expectations as they thought that the next person they meet will be better than the ex, when in fact the new person is simply different with new set of strengths and weaknesses. When the initial "honeymoon phase" ends, they will crash that much harder. If this didn't happen, then it could be what they did not do. Perhaps they never really opened up to you, or hesitated to be intimate. This all sounds very general, but you didn't provide much detail on what happened in your case for us to analyze further.
Author xoxo88 Posted December 16, 2009 Author Posted December 16, 2009 I'm doubtful about it because i know he wasn't over her when we met. I liked him from the beggining but i didn't want to start a relationship with him at that point knowing that his break up was so recent and he was not over it. I read some stuff on how you can tell if you're just a rebound and i didn't find any of those signs in him. Who knows...
DustySaltus Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 I'd say anything less than 6 months out of a previous relationship can be categorized as a rebound.
Ilovecake Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 If you were the first person he dated after his breakup and he didn't commit to you then you were most likely a rebound.
DustySaltus Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 If you were the first person he dated after his breakup and he didn't commit to you then you were most likely a rebound. I don't think that it has to do necessarily with being the first person. I think it is a function of how much you are thinking about the EX plus time since the breakup. It could be 6 months where you are single and then decide you are ready and go from there searching for a meaningful relationship. However, most of the time it doesn't exactly work out like this.
Odyssey Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 rebound signs = their ex always come up in conversation. OP i've been there myself and unfortunately i didn't see it either 'cause i was looking through those rose tinted glasses. In hindsight i knew (the signs had always been there). But i thought things might change. We weren't like everyone else... I was fooling myself.
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