Island Girl Posted December 18, 2009 Posted December 18, 2009 NoraJane calls it like she sees it and obviously knows your history. It doesn't matter WHY he slept with her. He slept with her. No amount of story or the truth will change that and IT DOESN'T MATTER WHY. The fact that he can spin tales that make your head twirl like this speaks volumes. Let that go. It is muddying your head so you can't even focus on what is really going on.
Author condogal Posted December 18, 2009 Author Posted December 18, 2009 Nora, you are very right!...but the first time i heard him say the other story as to why he really did it was last night...i don't get it...because we were on a path last night talking about having to move far to live away from everyone to be with eacother...he showed complete sorry for doing that with her\ to me but yet now that i know he said it was for the curiousity of being with someone different...whether black or chinese...that that was the real reason...i feel so different about him...i'm really grossed out!...i'm really freakin messed!!
Author condogal Posted December 18, 2009 Author Posted December 18, 2009 Hi Nora, so your saying my record is in...i may not be able to go on a trip soon?...but the cops said it's not and that it's just mandatory and told me not to worry...
melodymatters Posted December 18, 2009 Posted December 18, 2009 (edited) Oh lordy ! Yes, your info is on file, on your record. You are not held on bail for a major crime, so of course you can go wherever you wish. Something to think about : Your SO has NO POWER over the restraining order at this point. Years ago, I called the cops on an abusive ex. I was not taking him back, but the next morning I was willing to give him a ride to his car in impound so that he could go back to NY. We got in an accident on the way. Once they had our ID's, they saw the restraining order and BACK TO JAIL he went. It didn't matter that I said I was doing it freely, to help him get his car and leave. THEY said " WE have no choice. He kills you and we lose our jobs and the dept gets sued". No offense, but you are a little old for this crazy, back and forth drama. Nothing is going to be different in these NEXT 6 years. You will remember this thread and our words when you finally wake up at 38...or 42.... Edited December 18, 2009 by melodymatters typo
Author condogal Posted December 21, 2009 Author Posted December 21, 2009 Hi Melody, Thanks for your response...ummm so what your saying is even if he wants to remove the R/O now, he can't?...anyhow i don't care at this point as today i was having a hard day...watched Titanic and i was waterworks for the rest of the evening...and i felt an overwhelming feeling to text him saying i'm having a tough day today and that i couldn't stop crying...well not surprisingly, no answer!!...now you know what he could literally f-off!!...i'm so fed up of this abandoning, doesn't give a sh-- about me feeling when i know of a few guys who wish i'de be running after them!!...i'm never responding my phone to him!!, let him wonder what the heck i'm up to *******!!...he makes me sick!!
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