sugarmomma Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 Under what circumstances would you break up with someone via text? Just a rude person (over 10 weeks dating) sometimes and didn't seem to take my feelings into consideration. EX. He called at 5, I was sleep, he sent a text at 6 saying "I called u and u didn't answer, I can take a hint". I called back at 7 when I woke up left a message. He didn't call back all night. I sent text next morning saying "I'm done playing these childish games, take care". If I had tried to talk to him he would have just got defensive and blamed me somehow. I have very little tolerance for hurtful people. It was kind of bordering on emotional abuse. ( oh yea he said that he loved me)
tryagaintoday Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 now that's just psycho. i mean the part on calling at 5 and leaving a msg at 6 about the calling at 5 and not picking up....... is he God or something?
Author sugarmomma Posted December 16, 2009 Author Posted December 16, 2009 (edited) I know right? He is really prideful and self centered. He has done a lot of really nice things for me but I think they were done just to get me to fall for him. I have never met someone that needed to control a r so much. Really poor communication skills. I just couldn't deal with it any more. Edited December 16, 2009 by sugarmomma
ATR Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 I dumped him via text (he deserved it) I sent text next morning saying "I'm done playing these childish games, take care". Hypocrite.
Author sugarmomma Posted December 16, 2009 Author Posted December 16, 2009 (edited) Thanks so much!!! You have even heard half of it. I just wanted to be sure I was right for the way I ended it. He was borderline emotionally abusive. Just rude at times. Edited December 16, 2009 by sugarmomma
dashing daisy Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 Sounds like he's got some emotional problems. You decided you didn't want to deal with it anymore, so you broke up with him. Okay, probably good decision. Can't say I believe it's okay to break up with someone (especially more than 10 weeks, when "love" got thrown around) via text. If I had tried to talk to him he would have just got defensive and blamed me somehow.Yup, break ups suck, and sometimes people get defensive and blame the other person. It's always much easier to not have to deal with someone else's response. I just wanted to be sure I was right for the way I ended it. Right to end it, not right for the way you ended it. However, if you feel okay about breaking up with someone through a text, then that is your prerogative. I am sure everyone who breaks up through a text will justify it to themselves and probably to other people. It will be too hard to break up in person, s/he deserves it, they were playing games first. There is always a reason why it is easier to break up by text, or email. That's why people do it. I still think it's a cowardly way to end things. But it's your decision, so if you feel okay about it then that's that.
Author sugarmomma Posted December 17, 2009 Author Posted December 17, 2009 Daisy, I do wish that I could have been more mature about it. Its just that he was really getting on my nerves acting like a selfish child. Another ex. was one night I went out dancing and I texted him just to say hi. Once I told him I was out dancing he wouldn't return anymore of my texts that night. I told him he was being rude and the next day he called saying that he was sleep. He had to have fell asleep in 5 minute. I think he wanted to ruin my evening. So immature.
D-Lish Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 SM- sometimes a relationship deserves more than a text to break things off, and sometimes it isn't worth it to waste your breath on someone. He sounds like the latter. I've ended it with people over text. I dated a guy for a couple months- we had an arguement and he sent me a couple of abusive texts- so I just told him it was done. I don't owe him an in-person chat after he got abusive with me! If the guy was being emotionally abusive with you and playing weird games- you owe him nothing.
Author sugarmomma Posted December 17, 2009 Author Posted December 17, 2009 SM- sometimes a relationship deserves more than a text to break things off, and sometimes it isn't worth it to waste your breath on someone. He sounds like the latter. I've ended it with people over text. I dated a guy for a couple months- we had an arguement and he sent me a couple of abusive texts- so I just told him it was done. I don't owe him an in-person chat after he got abusive with me! If the guy was being emotionally abusive with you and playing weird games- you owe him nothing. Thank Lish! He was a real turd and I think one of the posters was right about him having emotional problems. Well damn! He is 43. When is he gonna grow up? I wish I could have said it over the phone at least but he would have made it about him somehow. Which he always does. Good Riddens!
D-Lish Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 Thank Lish! He was a real turd and I think one of the posters was right about him having emotional problems. Well damn! He is 43. When is he gonna grow up? I wish I could have said it over the phone at least but he would have made it about him somehow. Which he always does. Good Riddens! And on to the next! Woo Hoo!
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