bac Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 Men, could you, please, give me advice on the situation. During vaginal intercourse a man is about to climax soon but he wants to control or prolong it. What are the best/safest things to do for a man in the situation in order to prolong vaginal intercourse? What are the wrong things to do in the situation?
rockymountainhigh Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 Think of a good non-sexual activity. Baseball works for me. Try switching positions when you feel an o coming on.
faf Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 Take it out, place it on her clitoris, and keep the regular sexual motion going that way. You may have to hold it down. Should lessen your stimulation and keep her aroused. Sometimes you can smack it around the same area if she's into that. Hope this isn't too graphic for anyone.
Ichi-boned Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 Men, could you, please, give me advice on the situation. During vaginal intercourse a man is about to climax soon but he wants to control or prolong it. What are the best/safest things to do for a man in the situation in order to prolong vaginal intercourse? What are the wrong things to do in the situation? You can do a variety of things. Jerk off a few hours before sex. Pump the girl at a pace that isn't as stimulating as you'd like.....
SoulSearch_CO Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 Try applying pressure to the perineum. Apparently that works on some guys. It's worth a shot. Although I thought it was to intensify orgasm on a male, in one of my...ahem...experiences, it actually pulled him back from coming.
edward-e Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 i dunno about you....but for me...pushing on the perineum causes me to wanna shoot further possibly hitting her in the eye...
SoulSearch_CO Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 i dunno about you....but for me...pushing on the perineum causes me to wanna shoot further possibly hitting her in the eye... See?? That was my experience before the most recent guy. It had the opposite effect on him. LOL He was not pleased. It was not the effect I was going for.
FilthMerchant Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 Immerse yourself in the act. Unless you have a medical condition, in which case get it checked out and remedied as much as possible, it really is 'all in your head' that makes you cum too quickly. A user above mentions that you could think non-sexual thoughts, unfortunately this continues the problem. One set of distracting thoughts makes you finish too soon, the other set lets you last but not enjoy it as much as you could. Either way, your level of satisfaction (and most likely hers too) is around the same. Immerse yourself in the act as much as possible so that distracting thoughts and nervousness don't enter your mind. Practice will make you last longer. Relinquish totally your fear of finishing too soon - in fact, maybe even have a competition with yourself to see how FAST you can finish so that you simply stop caring about it. Trust me, the benefits you reap from following this advice will be immense
SoulSearch_CO Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 Immerse yourself in the act. Unless you have a medical condition, in which case get it checked out and remedied as much as possible, it really is 'all in your head' that makes you cum too quickly. A user above mentions that you could think non-sexual thoughts, unfortunately this continues the problem. One set of distracting thoughts makes you finish too soon, the other set lets you last but not enjoy it as much as you could. Either way, your level of satisfaction (and most likely hers too) is around the same. Immerse yourself in the act as much as possible so that distracting thoughts and nervousness don't enter your mind. Practice will make you last longer. Relinquish totally your fear of finishing too soon - in fact, maybe even have a competition with yourself to see how FAST you can finish so that you simply stop caring about it. Trust me, the benefits you reap from following this advice will be immense Bac is a female. So she's asking what she can do to help the man.
FilthMerchant Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 Refer him here. But also: Don't show anger, frustration, disappointment or any other negative emotion. Try and be neutral or show some level of enjoyment (don't overdo it though that is just as bad lol). Either way he is going to be disappointed in himself but best to try and minimise the damage.... Try and keep having sex as regularly as you do as well or he will think you are no longer attracted to him and things will get worse
Yukikazi Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 When you get too close to the edge.. start mentally picturing the girl vomiting dead puppies.. should shock your system quite a bit if you have a good imagination.
Author bac Posted December 16, 2009 Author Posted December 16, 2009 Bac is a female. So she's asking what she can do to help the man. I would love to know what I can do to help him. But, I believe it mostly depends on him but not on me. Therefore, I would like to know what he should do to help himself. In other words, I look for advice for my man because he is kind of confused with the situation.
phineas Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 When you get too close to the edge.. start mentally picturing the girl vomiting dead puppies.. should shock your system quite a bit if you have a good imagination. Mother of all creatures great & small!! you want his penis to invert?
Dark-Farmer Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 I've heard thinking about something else doesn't work, and i agree. You need to be "there". Something that helps alot as simple as it sounds is ... breathing. Some, well lots, of people tense up and if they took a moment to realize they actually slow or stop all together their breathing. You need to breathe, infact breathing hard will release your excitement and slow your climax. Infact lots of women find heavy breathing exciting so not only will you slow yourself down but speed her up. So tell him that when he feels over excited to breathe deep heavy breathes. Also starting and stopping is not a bad method. Men excite easier but the also calm down easier. So if he slows down or even stops for a bit he can calm down and you should stay pretty close to the same level.
Author bac Posted December 16, 2009 Author Posted December 16, 2009 Also starting and stopping is not a bad method. Men excite easier but the also calm down easier. So if he slows down or even stops for a bit he can calm down and you should stay pretty close to the same level. He has tried to stop for a few seconds while he was inside me, and as result of that he has lost a condom in the vagina.
Dark-Farmer Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 That's a first. Condoms usually stay on pretty good. I read your other thread about condoms slipping off, get him to use a smaller condom. Even if he is average, it'll stretch and be less likely to slip off. Also he might want to try showering before sex, when every i shower and i am spick and span my skin feels "grippier" haha. I assume you're not serious enough to not use condoms so these two ideas might help.
stevejohnson1976 Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 anti-depressants...you can have sex for HOURS
Goatsbreath Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 Guys sometimes invest all their thinking into the orgasm during sex and trying not to have one, this actually makes it harder to control. They think about baseball or dead puppies in hopes to try and remove themselves from the situation which usually don't work and removes then from the intimacy. You can do something better, like mentioned earlier, breath and think about the sex. Look at her and the way she looks. Follow your eyes on her neck or up her back and really pay attention to her and focus on her skin. Just don't focus on "not having a orgasm" You really can focus on the sex but remove yourself from the "don't cum, don't cum, don't cum, not yet" thinking. Also, during masturbation don't masturbate as quick as you can, make it last as long as you would like to last in bed. If you masturbate quickly just to shoot one off every day then you condition yourself to cum quick. Also, kegel exercises are said to make one last longer and you can google how to do them.
Author bac Posted December 17, 2009 Author Posted December 17, 2009 anti-depressants...you can have sex for HOURS Already on it.
stevejohnson1976 Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 Already on it. hmmm...try lexapro...hours....upon hours. prolly the single reason my last relationship lasted as long as it did. mystified her that I could last that long.... this goes for the dude...it seems like you're a chick...i have no idea then. dont be so good...hahaha
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