9Lives Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 4yrs off and on...been broken up for good for 1 1/2 month...been crying alot Letting go for me means letting go of the tears, the pain, the hurt, the secret tears, the worry,the insecurity, the lack of confidence, the not feeling good enough feeling, the feeling alone and unloved to become a independent happy person again. letting go means become strong, gutsy, and confident again Letting go means loving yourself enough to treat yourself better. Letting go means no longer cheating on myself or cheating myself Letting go means detaching from someone who is not giving you the love..the kind of love you deserve. letting go means accepting that this is the way it is and I cant change it. Letting go means becoming a happy, strong, fulfilled woman I could go on and on but letting go if the love is not right is a good thing if we will endure the pain. Im learning that now.
Author 9Lives Posted December 16, 2009 Author Posted December 16, 2009 letting go for me means getting off the emotional roller coaster!!
USMCHokie Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 Letting go means accepting that she doesn't want me back in her life.
LovelyDaze Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 4yrs off and on...been broken up for good for 1 1/2 month...been crying alot Letting go for me means letting go of the tears, the pain, the hurt, the secret tears, the worry,the insecurity, the lack of confidence, the not feeling good enough feeling, the feeling alone and unloved to become a independent happy person again. letting go means become strong, gutsy, and confident again Letting go means loving yourself enough to treat yourself better. Letting go means no longer cheating on myself or cheating myself Letting go means detaching from someone who is not giving you the love..the kind of love you deserve. letting go means accepting that this is the way it is and I cant change it. Letting go means becoming a happy, strong, fulfilled woman I could go on and on but letting go if the love is not right is a good thing if we will endure the pain. Im learning that now. Refreshing like a hot cup of coffee on a cold morning! Thank you for this. I especially love "Letting go means no longer cheating on myself or cheating myself" because when I thought that a few weeks back, I smiled because it was then I knew not to make this man a part of my life anymore. We work together now, but he goes to Afghanistan in January and I culdn't be happier at the long year and a half he will be away. I wish him a safe journey, but I definitely want him to return and I am 101% over him!
Author 9Lives Posted December 16, 2009 Author Posted December 16, 2009 Letting go means accepting that she doesn't want me back in her life. letting go means you realize the love you shared was not respected and you deserve a hell of alot better
2sunny Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 letting go means standing firm on my values and belief system - integrity. ultimately, for me, it means that i just no longer care... don't care at all about what it used to be, used to look like and don't care enough to think about any of it.
XKatieX Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 It basically stems for one thing for me: letting go of hope If you can do that, you can do anything in my mind.
Surfer Girl Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 Letting go means you have no control anymore, detaching, forgiving and realizing each others happiness in life may not be with each other!!!
carhill Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 For myself, acceptance led to a process whereby I still value the good memories I made while married and accept the issues and responsibilities which led to the divorce. Letting go is freedom to live.
soheartbroken Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 Letting go means you have no control anymore, detaching, forgiving and realizing each others happiness in life may not be with each other!!! Agree. And this is ridiculously hard for me to do.
Odyssey Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 To me, your ex move from people you know to becoming people you knew... ...when your heart is no longer in a tug-a-war with what your head already knew - that there's no hope of getting them back. the end. acceptance. That's letting go.
HeavenOrHell Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 It also means you take back some control though, I feel this at the moment, he no longer has all the control because I am meeting new people and building a new life for myself rather than pining for him and it seems to have unsettled him a bit. I am taking control of my life back, I feel my life and happiness do not totally depend on what he decides to do anymore. Letting go, to me means letting go of all hope of reconciling, letting go of him from my heart Letting go means you have no control anymore, detaching, forgiving and realizing each others happiness in life may not be with each other!!!
Brightmoon Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 Letting go means realising that I can and will rescue me...
Brightmoon Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 ...when your heart is no longer in a tug-a-war with what your head already knew - that there's no hope of getting them back. the end. acceptance. That's letting go. Thats it perfectly Odyssey.
e.clipse Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 i thought i would always love my exbf. you won't believe how many months i spent on here, many of them with tears running down my cheeks, writing about how the love i felt for him was so strong, it made me weak. at first, i dismissed people's advice when they said that, eventually, i would be OK, thinking they simply didn't understand me -- or better yet -- didn't know how deeply i loved him. because i did. but time being the greatest Healer of all, eventually, the love began to wean. how long it took, i'm not sure. perhaps too long? i don't want to know. i don't want to remember and relive so much sadness. sadness that he caused at first, but, most importantly, sadness that i fueled every waking moment by not letting go. today, i still think of him, yes, and pretty frequently. i miss him, too. sometimes. but...it's not the same. and that makes me happy. with time as my guide, i have made myself happy; i have learned to let go. because, ultimately, for me, at least, letting go means giving myself that chance to breathe, to smile, to live...to know that i am OK.
Author 9Lives Posted December 17, 2009 Author Posted December 17, 2009 (edited) letting go means not cheating on myself anymore Edited December 17, 2009 by 9Lives
Author 9Lives Posted December 17, 2009 Author Posted December 17, 2009 letting to to me means that whatever he is doing is none of my business
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