Kamille Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 Why are there so many war-of-the-sexes threads on this forum? How do people expect to establish healthy relationships if they expect the worst out of the opposite gender? They'll either always be on offensive or defensive mode and never in simple joyful getting to know someone mode. I don't get it. I wish more people enjoyed dating.
alphamale Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 Why are there so many war-of-the-sexes threads on this forum? its all in good fun Kamille and anyways without those threads you may as well shut LS down and turn off the lights.
Pyro Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 Why are there so many war-of-the-sexes threads on this forum? How do people expect to establish healthy relationships if they expect the worst out of the opposite gender? They'll either always be on offensive or defensive mode and never in simple joyful getting to know someone mode. I don't get it. I wish more people enjoyed dating. Instead of trying for a healthy relationship, they think that playing the blame game on why their past experiences have been anything but happy is more important. Hopefully they learn someday.
Art_Critic Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 Why are there so many war-of-the-sexes threads on this forum? This time of year brings out the worst in people...
Author Kamille Posted December 16, 2009 Author Posted December 16, 2009 its all in good fun Kamille and anyways without those threads you may as well shut LS down and turn off the lights. True... I guess it's normal for a dating board to have people trying to figure men or women out. And yet, there is no such thing as a 'normal' guy or a 'normal' woman. I treat every man I meet like an individual in his own right and build trust and respect from there (or not). I just feel like the board has been flooded with those posts lately. I should perhaps read the archives from 2005 to see if I was just missing the excessive negative generalizations of the opposite gender in the past. Instead of trying for a healthy relationship, they think that playing the blame game on why their past experiences have been anything but happy is more important. Hopefully they learn someday. Hopefully. Sometimes I think the problem is that people now EXPECT to be in love, have a family by a certain age and feel betrayed, or flawed, or jipped if it doesn't pan out according to plan. I've always just thought it would be great if I met someone special - but never really thought it had to happen in order for me to be happy.
Pyro Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 Hopefully. Sometimes I think the problem is that people now EXPECT to be in love, have a family by a certain age and feel betrayed, or flawed, or jipped if it doesn't pan out according to plan. I've always just thought it would be great if I met someone special - but never really thought it had to happen in order for me to be happy. Exactly. People feel entitled to things now. That last sentence is brilliant. Everyone needs to think that way.
Author Kamille Posted December 16, 2009 Author Posted December 16, 2009 Thanks Alpha, Pyro and AC... Needed to put the word out there: We can get along. sooo what did I miss? Why do you all have the same avie?
Pyro Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 Thanks Alpha, Pyro and AC... Needed to put the word out there: We can get along. sooo what did I miss? Why do you all have the same avie? To piss Alpha off.
Green Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 I've always just thought it would be great if I met someone special - but never really thought it had to happen in order for me to be happy. Do you understand that men and women are different? Would you be happy if I told you it was never going to happen for you
CLC2008 Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 Thanks Alpha, Pyro and AC... Needed to put the word out there: We can get along. sooo what did I miss? Why do you all have the same avie? Thank goodness someone else pointed that out....I thought I had a third eye for a second. It was wigging me out!
Author Kamille Posted December 16, 2009 Author Posted December 16, 2009 Do you understand that men and women are different? I think every human is unique and different from the next and find that while men and women are different on some fronts, they actually have a lot more in common. Would you be happy if I told you it was never going to happen for you What isn't going to happen? I'm happy now, madly in love with my bf now, in love with life now. I have been in love with life for the last 14 years or so, a third of which I spent single. Should I stop enjoying life now to focus worrying about the future? Truth be told... I don't know if bf and I will make it past my move to Europe. But I sure love having him in my life right now and wouldn't trade that for the world. I don't know what the future holds and I don't expect well-being and happiness to be ever lasting. It comes and it goes, but happiness, like everything else, takes practice. I know what makes me happy. It's really simple. It's eating right, great conversations, exercise, laughter, great sex (and great self-gratification too:p!), good meals, good friends, etc etc. It's much easier dealing with the dating world once you realize your well-being doesn't depend on it. It depends on being able to take care of yourself. the bonus? This approach to life allows you to cope with life's challenges more successfully then if you're anxiety ridden.
Author Kamille Posted December 16, 2009 Author Posted December 16, 2009 Thank goodness someone else pointed that out....I thought I had a third eye for a second. It was wigging me out! Notice how they're not answering the question??? We're going to have to send in an investigative squad.
Pyro Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 Notice how they're not answering the question??? We're going to have to send in an investigative squad. Scroll back up. I answered.
Citizen Erased Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 Thank goodness someone else pointed that out....I thought I had a third eye for a second. It was wigging me out! What is?
Author Kamille Posted December 16, 2009 Author Posted December 16, 2009 LOL! Silliness. I still have no idea what's going on - but I'm going to try and inconspicuously infiltrate their network. shhh.
CLC2008 Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 I still have no idea what's going on - but I'm going to try and inconspicuously infiltrate their network. shhh. My tummy hurts.
Author Kamille Posted December 16, 2009 Author Posted December 16, 2009 Scroll back up. I answered. I'm sure I'm doing a great job! Any way you could point me to a thread where we could see the lead up to the first annual LS Annoy-Alpha extravaganza?
Pyro Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 I'm sure I'm doing a great job! Any way you could point me to a thread where we could see the lead up to the first annual LS Annoy-Alpha extravaganza? The off topic thread. It actually dates back many months ago. People stole his avvie then and he got pissed, and it came to mind tonight, so we did a sequel.
Citizen Erased Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 I still have no idea what's going on - but I'm going to try and inconspicuously infiltrate their network. shhh. :lmao:
Author Kamille Posted December 16, 2009 Author Posted December 16, 2009 :lmao: Oh no! They're on to me!
CLC2008 Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 Oh no! They're on to me! Kamille, your avie is much smaller...It's a mini-me version
Citizen Erased Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 Kamille, your avie is much smaller...It's a mini-me version It's so she just blends in but we still know she is different.
Pyro Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 But but why are we getting along? Men and women are suppose to be at war.
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