BlueHarvest Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 At what point do you figure a friendship is more valuable then what it could be? I won't go into details unless asked or needed but suffice it to say I'm in a good friendship with a girl and I like being her friend, but lately I've noticed a shift in behavior. More attention spent on getting to know me. Likewise I've tried to get to know her, but she didn't give me alot of opportunities so I got what I could from when we hung out but didn't push it. This friendship is going on 3 years now. And while over the past 6 months it has definitely developed by leaps and bounds...I have to wonder if it's worth it to pursue it as something more. This isn't an infatuation, in fact it's the opposite. I thought 3 years ago that physically she was pretty, but not my type based on what I thought I knew of her personality and lifestyle. Now, knowing her better I see alot of similarities between us, yet a dichotomy in relevant behavior that would allow for us to help each other grow *SHOULD* a relationship develop. My biggest fear is 1)Expressing my feelings towards her and having her reject me. The rejection part, while depressing isn't the bad part. It would be the awkward realization that my feelings towards her aren't equal. 2) My second issue would be the fact that I have a hard time developing new friends. It's hard to find someone that I have this much in common with, and the thought of possibly losing someone like this because I wanted to take it further is also disturbing. I feel like I *want* to see where it goes. But I'm afraid of the consequences should it falter at the first step, or anywhere else along the way.
Author BlueHarvest Posted December 17, 2009 Author Posted December 17, 2009 Ok...hate bumping my own post but it got pushed off the first page pretty darn quick. Anyone have any thoughts?
Yukikazi Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 You have to be prepared for the friendship to end if you tell her your feelings and she doesn't share them.
Confusedalways Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 If it makes you feel any better, I'm in the same situation. It's really sticky, but I think you will wonder more if you don't pursue it than if you do. Wondering is always the worst...
boogieboy Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 If one of you is already attracted to the other, the friendship is already over. Now its just about going in for the kill, or somone gets hurt from rejection. You cant be where you use to be now. From this point on, a move in either direction will be made - by one of you - whether you like it or not. Its inevitable. Deal with it and get it over with. BTW when you profess feelings, thats a sure fire way to ruin everything. You either go for it fully, or reject her.
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