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How should I ask her to be girlfriend?


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Hi, I met this beautiful girl on December 08. After that time we saw eachother on April 09, that night we got to chance to talk to eachother more, even though we were in a group of friends, but that night she realized that she really liked me. We got to see eachother more during summer, that's when we started texting and hanging out. Then on a night of September she decided to text me to tell me in a explicit way that she really likes me. Things started to get more interesting in November. On her birthday (Nov 2nd) we decided to hangout in the morning we went for a walk and ended up sitting at the beach watching the sea and talking. That's when we had our first kiss. We got to see eachother more, I was the happiest person but then after like 2 weeks from the first kiss she started to be a kind of cold thowards me and on November 20th she told me she realized that she started to see more as a best friend than a boyfriend. Well it was very painful for me to take it but I started thinking and trying to understand what landed me into the sad "friend zone" and I realized that the fact that I was so in love with her that i was scared of loosing her caused me to be unsecure around her and talk about topics that normally a best friend would do. On November 23rd I recieved a txt from her asking if I wanted to go out with her and a friend because her parents were out of town for 2 days. So we went to a bar, and her friend got drunk so we had to take her back home. Then when we were just the two of us in the car I started the conversation about the fact that I couldn't stand the fact that we would just be friends, she started caressing me, one thing led to another and we find ourselves in the backseats having sex and loosing our virginity to eachother. It was amazing, there wasn't just sex, but there was actually love coming from my part and I'm pretty sure it was the same for her otherwise I would've just stopped myself. I decided to change, to upgrade my look a little bit, being unavailable, make her jealous and all that stuff that keeps out of the friendzone.Then we saw eachoter the next Saturday, she started hugging me and getting closed with her lips to mines I didn't blink an eye, i didn't move at all because I wanted for her to make the move, in order to understand what she was really feeling for me and she kissed me. So after that, I texted her on Wednesday, I had so many stuff to ask that I couldn't keep them inside of me, so I asked that after what happened between us two she changed her mind and she just said no, nothing changed, I love you but in a different way that a couple would do. I started not to text her and the next Saturday when we went out I made her very jealous, talking to alot of cute girls and looking good, she kissed me again. I recieved a text from her this Friday night: "So yea I'm constantly thinking and I realized that things changed without you. Knowing that when I touch you or when you touch me it's only "friendship" it kinda bothers me and I know it's my fault we only remained friends but I've come to realize that it was one of my many errors in life that I tend to do so often...I want to let you know that day we had sex for me it wasn't sex. Actually it was much more and there was love coming from my part. But I didn't want to say anything because I was scared... of many things, like letting you down.Ok I don't know if this is going anywhere but let me write some stuff: I think you have to be the greatest person I've ever met in my whole life and I'm sorry I've let you down so many times... And your smile brightens up my day and your delicate lips send me into shock everytime my head spinnin' and my world in tilt... Hugging you and sensing your warmth I feel as if I'm like in paradise. Talking to you I feel safe and understood somewhat... I miss you but I'm so scared of hurting because I could never forgive myself if I was ever to hurt you... now I'm not asking you to understand.. just tell me what you think..?". That was a heck of a text... I told her some sweet words but I also told her that she deserved an answer in person, because I can't fully express my feelings or talk about such topics by texts. So we met on Sunday night, we had the greatest time but she looked so beautiful that i completely forgot of talking about the text she sent me. I saw her this morning we had a great time, this time I told her that I was ready to talk about the text she sent me and asked if she wanted to talk rite now but she said we'll talk very soon. Well now we're planning to go out on Saturday night and I really want to make things clear with her, we know we are not just friends and we know eachother well enough to tell that. So I just want to find a way to tell ask her to be my girlfriend, I don't want to say it straight up like:"would you like to be my girfriend" that'd be kinda awkward, do you guys have any good ideas? Thanks for reading the whole story, I hope Saturday will be a great day. :):love:

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