Jump to content

u know im like really scared


While the thread author can add an update and reopen discussion, this thread was last posted in over a month ago. Want to continue the conversation? Feel free to start a new thread instead!

Recommended Posts

Posted

its like i remeber waiting all my life all through high school and college for a woman i could love and that loved me. and then like one day this perfect beautiful girl comes into my life. literally walks into my life and is in love with me.

 

and the next 3 years of my life are great and then i like **** it up so bad by being insecure and over protective and its like now im doomed to be alone because no girl like that will walk into my life again.

 

im 25 and scared ill be alone like i was for the first 20 years. its crazy....

Posted

You wont be alone...believe me!!! Even if you want that to happen it wont!! You will find a wonderful girl who will love you!!! Sorry!!

  • Author
Posted

u dont know what it like though. your a girl. you probably get hit on everyday. to actually have to go out now to bars and clubs and become one of the masses of other cattle sucks. when you find a great gal that is pretty, sexy and independent has a great job and respects you, you dont go and **** it up.

 

and i did. i meet girls nw and they just dont stack up either in looks or attitude or lifestyle.

 

and it scares me to know that i will compare girls to her for a long time and i might not find something better.

Posted
u dont know what it like though. your a girl. when you find a great gal that is pretty, sexy and independent has a great job and respects you, you dont go and **** it up.

 

and i did. i meet girls nw and they just dont stack up either in looks or attitude or lifestyle.

 

and it scares me to know that i will compare girls to her for a long time and i might not find something better.

 

It seems your attitude is selfish, like you want a pretty, sexy, independent young thing to just give herself to you.

 

But who are you?

 

A better attitude would be to be ready to give yourself, whole and complete, to the next girl who goes out with you. In giving your unique and gifted self, the right girl will respond to you.

 

And I don't mean sex. lol. I mean just be real, be who you are. If you're not confident or proud of yourself, find yourself and be confident and proud.

 

You will be attractive simply by being you.

Posted

What utter b*llocks, McGrupp.

 

and then like one day this perfect beautiful girl comes into my life. literally walks into my life and is in love with me.

 

So perfect she cheated on you. Whoooa - LUCKY you!

 

(Besides, how do you expect people to come into your life if they don't literally walk into it? They jet-ski?)

 

and the next 3 years of my life are great

 

Really? It was that simple? The cheating, the respect you lost for her, the anxiety you felt when you eventually accepted her back? The anxiety you felt every time you felt she might do it again? It was great, was it?

 

I sincerely hope a girl like that NEVER walks into your life again.

 

How are the travel plans coming along? x

  • Author
Posted

thinkn i might go for it all and just go to california. i need a buddy to come and hes sort of being wishy washy. so florida is the backup.

 

either way im out in february

Posted
yeah i get that.

 

Well then stop tellin' yourself you're scared! :p:p

Posted
thinkn i might go for it all and just go to california. i need a buddy to come and hes sort of being wishy washy. so florida is the backup.

 

either way im out in february

 

Good.

 

And you don't NEED a buddy, btw. Your balls will grow faster if you go ALONE. (Do it, it's fun.) x

Posted

Yes come to california....make a new start. Im from california...i like it here ;)

Posted
And you don't NEED a buddy, btw. Your balls will grow faster if you go ALONE. (Do it, it's fun.) x

 

Alone = Bigger balls.. I dunno, the logic seems sound...

Posted

Ha! I'm female and I don't get hit on everyday! Being 43 doesn't go in my favour I guess, and I'm not a clubby pubby conventional type of person and I'm not really interested in meeting pubby clubby types. It will be far easier for you to find someone than it will me, believe me!

I feel the same when it comes to worrying no one will really compare to what I had with my ex, it IS scary and there are no guarantees, but I truly believe you will be ok.

Your ex cheated on you didn't she? So she wasn't that great was she? She didn't respect you if she cheated on you.

 

 

u dont know what it like though. your a girl. you probably get hit on everyday. to actually have to go out now to bars and clubs and become one of the masses of other cattle sucks. when you find a great gal that is pretty, sexy and independent has a great job and respects you, you dont go and **** it up.

 

and i did. i meet girls nw and they just dont stack up either in looks or attitude or lifestyle.

 

and it scares me to know that i will compare girls to her for a long time and i might not find something better.

Posted

Truthfully if she cheated on you she never respected you in the first place. When you find a girl that respects you for you and doesn't cheat on you then you WILL be lucky. Ultimately my ex boyfriend was the most faithful/trusting person as I was to him, but we didn't respect each other enough and that was the downfall. Respect and trust go hand in hand, you can't have one without the other.

Posted
its like i remeber waiting all my life all through high school and college for a woman i could love and that loved me. and then like one day this perfect beautiful girl comes into my life. literally walks into my life and is in love with me.

 

im 25 and scared ill be alone like i was for the first 20 years. its crazy....

 

 

^ This is me in a nutshell...but I'm not scared of it...if it happens, then it's the way it was supposed to happen...if not, again, it's the way it was supposed to happen...I'm prepared either way...

Posted

Hey McGrupp.

Let me just say, that you sound a tad better from a few posts I've responded to in the past. Good for you.

 

Honey, you are 25. I am just a shy bit older than you by a few but I do know that 25 is the top of the hill of life. You've got a looooong time to find a girl that you WILL BE crazy about and she will be crazy about you right back.

She exists...you just haven't met her yet. She's waiting on you...to believe she's there.

  • Author
Posted

anyone take back a cheater and make it? was i wrong to take her back? was it just kissing? is kissing cheating?

 

i mean i debate with myself over this (actually i didnt for a long time) but now i do. some say i shouldve left, others that it was nothing. to me it was a huge deal, but even she said at our breakup convo that i never got over it.

 

whatevs

Posted

Yes kissing is cheating, even certain conversations can be cheating in a way, if it's intimate and stuff you'd normallly only share with a partner.

 

 

anyone take back a cheater and make it? was i wrong to take her back? was it just kissing? is kissing cheating?

 

i mean i debate with myself over this (actually i didnt for a long time) but now i do. some say i shouldve left, others that it was nothing. to me it was a huge deal, but even she said at our breakup convo that i never got over it.

 

whatevs

×
×
  • Create New...