jms76 Posted December 15, 2009 Posted December 15, 2009 Hi guys. I'm pretty sure I know the answer to my own question but need to bounce this off everyone first. Girl I was seeing for about a year told me about 4 days ago that she didn't see the relationship going anywhere and that perhaps we should end it. She told me this over the phone originally but then agreed to see me to talk about it. I went over to her place and we spoke for about an hour. She stated she was glad I came over and that she was upset that things were not going well. To back up a bit, we've been having problems for several months (no sex, trust issues, etc). I agreed and suggested we start over in a sense. Maybe go on dates instead of "dating". She seemed enthusiastic about the idea and towards the end of the convo she stated that she needed time. She kissed me goodbye and that was that. A couple days ago I noticed on facebook that I was no longer her friend. She didn't block me but just removed me as a friend. I'm upset that she did this and want to ask her why she removed me. However I want to respect her need for space and don't think it would be a good idea to contact her. I miss her already and I'm wondering if I should break NC to ask her? Thoughts?
christophermichael Posted December 15, 2009 Posted December 15, 2009 hey man. Im actually in a very similar relationship as well. NC is honestly the best option. It's terrible to hear it, believe me, i KNOW!!! but It will give her the time and space she needs to get herself together again. As much as it feels like your heart is being torn out, if you cave and become needy, you WILL ruin any chances of her coming back. Take time to focus on yourself and make yourself happy. Go out with friends. Eventhough you may not find that idea to be appealing, it will do a world of good for you. Maybe these options will open her eyes to what shes missing ...but then again, maybe not. Just keep your head up and know that even when this seems like you will never recover, you will. Someone out there is going to give you what you need and you'll be happier than ever instead of being taken advantage of and giving love to someone who can't return it. best of luck brother.
NoneoftheAbove Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 Hi guys. I'm pretty sure I know the answer to my own question but need to bounce this off everyone first. Girl I was seeing for about a year told me about 4 days ago that she didn't see the relationship going anywhere and that perhaps we should end it. She told me this over the phone originally but then agreed to see me to talk about it. I went over to her place and we spoke for about an hour. She stated she was glad I came over and that she was upset that things were not going well. To back up a bit, we've been having problems for several months (no sex, trust issues, etc). I agreed and suggested we start over in a sense. Maybe go on dates instead of "dating". She seemed enthusiastic about the idea and towards the end of the convo she stated that she needed time. She kissed me goodbye and that was that. A couple days ago I noticed on facebook that I was no longer her friend. She didn't block me but just removed me as a friend. I'm upset that she did this and want to ask her why she removed me. However I want to respect her need for space and don't think it would be a good idea to contact her. I miss her already and I'm wondering if I should break NC to ask her? Thoughts? Im sorry you are going through this if i were you, I wouldn't break NC, she asked for a space. As you said, i want to respect her space. She removed you because she doesnt want to deal with the pain of seeing your pictures? or she is trying to get over you? who knows it could be anything. Although, you should focus on yourself, forget about her and don't ask questions such as why she removed me from facebook. If she wants to come back she will contact you, if she loved you like she said she does no matter what she will return to you. As for now, sit back and try to forget her.
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