thepoweroflove Posted December 15, 2009 Posted December 15, 2009 Hi, Feeling kinda strange pouring out my heart online, but I'm in a bad place so I'm hoping this could help me get some things straight in my head... Me and my ex girlfriend had been together for 7 years, started dating way back in college..stayed together over uni where I studied design and she studied fashion at different uni's..was long distance but we both put the effort in and made it work. We live in the same area back home so when we had breaks etc we were together all the time back home... ..Move on couple years..we've both graduated with good degrees, i've went into design, she's got a job in fashion. Happy I thought.. She found a job bout six months before me & was kinda pushed by her mum to buy a flat in the city, a one-bedroom flat. I was totally against it and wanted her to wait so we could move in together. She moved anyway...The idea was she would sell it and we'd get a place together once we were both fully settled in our careers...turns out she kept putting off selling it...the markets rubbish etc she would say..she was right so I just thought it would happen when the time was right..... Anyway I got made redundant from my job bout a year ago which put alot of strain on the relationship...I thought she'd be there for me, instead she kinda wasn't.... Start of this year she cheated on me then dumped me after a drawn out break-up...Says she doesnt know why she cheated (i believe her) and that I'm not the one for her & if she doesnt know if she wants to be with me for the rest of her life, she shouldn't be now... This happened while ago..things have picked up and am currently freelancing all over the place and met lots of new people, girls etc...but I can't get her out of my head, and I'm finding it hard to let the person I love go...i've tried the whole NC thing..went abit wrong, ended up sleeping with her again...she obviously has feelings for me, won't stop crying when I try and bring it all up... I never stopped loving her and am totally messed up as to what the hell kinda happened...I guess maybe we just both grew apart as we got older... I don't want to let her go, she wants space & I haven't given it to her..I've been hassling her and after we sleep together i've been even worse... The longest I've managed to go without speaking is about three weeks-ish..I seem to lose the plot after that... I know NC is the way to go but how the hell do you let someone you love just walk away...I wanted to marry this girl.. Any advice would be helpful I'm now 27..she's 26...
DustySaltus Posted December 15, 2009 Posted December 15, 2009 Begin with reading this: [COLOR=#660000]Guide to second chances.[/COLOR]
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