Artist Posted December 15, 2009 Posted December 15, 2009 I was dating a very beautiful woman. She broke up 6 weeks ago and then has been continually reaching out to me the last time being about a week ago. This is the third time she has broken up only this time I found out she had been cheating on me. I want to wait until I have no more anger or longing for her before I start dating again. However right now I can't help but compare every women to her. Are they as pretty or as sexy. Does this ever go away? As I wake up I see there is little she has to offer than this seductive beauty. I want to consider other qualitites and plan to look for those but as I am healing I am just wondering if there is a tendancy to put the ex up on a pedistal. Can anyone else tell me if they have struggled with this comparing and hopefully tell me that it fades and that when you fall in love the next time there is no comparing going on.
McGrupp Posted December 15, 2009 Posted December 15, 2009 hasn faded for me, although i read somewhere you have to bang 10 girls to et over your ex and if she was beautiful (mine was a model) then they have to be semi up to her caliber. basically were screwed. lol
tryagaintoday Posted December 15, 2009 Posted December 15, 2009 think it just sexual for you. so banging some hot prostitute should be 1 good way to get over her. i don't understand why you would want to compare ppl with cheaters. almost anyone you pick off the streets (yeah even dirt-bags) are better than cheaters
Author Artist Posted December 15, 2009 Author Posted December 15, 2009 Actually we never had sex. We were very physical but stopped short. I think it is a sexual longing and a longing for beauty. I don't want to compare people to her. I agree cheating is horrible. That is why I am hoping this comparing thing is just a stage of heartache.
Island Girl Posted December 15, 2009 Posted December 15, 2009 You are grieving the loss of possibilities. It has more to do with that and your state of mind than her.
McGrupp Posted December 15, 2009 Posted December 15, 2009 the facy you never had sex is a good thing. believe me. a good thing
Eisenhower Posted December 15, 2009 Posted December 15, 2009 I feel you. My ex was the sexiest, most physically perfect girl I've ever been with, not to mention super-sexual. So, yes, I fear I'll be comparing potential mates to her for a long time ... and it scares me. Eisenhower
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