duskandsummer Posted December 15, 2009 Posted December 15, 2009 I was thinking back to a kiss I had with a guy and I always wondered what the heck it meant to him..it was our first kiss..so yeah it was gonna be awkward but guys tell me what you think. So he leans in for the kiss and all he was doing was like pecks but no tongue what so ever..it was like his teeth were shut..I even licked his teeth to like trying to get in there but nope it was all like lip action..what did that mean? Did he not want to kiss me..or did he feel forced to kiss me to get to the next step? Also, how can you tell if a guy is really into you through a kiss?
ecm Posted December 15, 2009 Posted December 15, 2009 sounds like he doesn't know how to kiss. If you like him, help him out If you're just "eh", I'd be turned off, honestly. Weird
boogieboy Posted December 15, 2009 Posted December 15, 2009 He doesnt LIKE to kiss with his mouth open. Means you still wont know how he feels about you through a kiss.
meerkat stew Posted December 15, 2009 Posted December 15, 2009 If he does that again, just grab him by the balls -hard- and say, "Kiss me like a man or these will be coming back to you in a jar." He should get the message then.
sunshine94 Posted December 15, 2009 Posted December 15, 2009 If he does that again, just grab him by the balls -hard- and say, "Kiss me like a man or these will be coming back to you in a jar." He should get the message then. Too funny. LOL
Author duskandsummer Posted December 15, 2009 Author Posted December 15, 2009 haha you guys are funny. maybe he didn't know how to kiss..this is a relief though I thought maybe he wasn't into me and just wanted to get to the action right away..so I thought it was just me he didn't want to kiss.
meerkat stew Posted December 15, 2009 Posted December 15, 2009 There's no way to know really. Some people have mouth hangups that prevent them from really enjoying kissing. It's really hard to tell any meaning from a single kiss as far as how someone feels about you, regardless of what the song says, better to go by how they treat you. Was only half joking about the ball grabbing, btw, he would either run down the road crying "mommy" or rare back and plant a really good snog on you. Hell, he might even get down on his knees and propose on the spot! That's what I'd do (if I weren't already rolling around on the ground in agony) In any event you would have the "one-up" story of all times.
Island Girl Posted December 15, 2009 Posted December 15, 2009 Awww. See? That just would turn me right off and I'd never waste my time - or his - again. Kissing is one of my favorite things to do. I'm good at it and I like guys who are good at it. For me, there is no coming back from a bad kiss like that. Yuck.
Yukikazi Posted December 15, 2009 Posted December 15, 2009 Hell, he might even get down on his knees and propose on the spot! That's what I'd do (if I weren't already rolling around on the ground in agony) I don't think he is gonna budge so long as she still has his balls in her hand.
meerkat stew Posted December 15, 2009 Posted December 15, 2009 I dunno, it's so easy really to teach someone how you like to be kissed, and to learn how they like to be, I'd give a pass on that over some obnoxious personality trait. Those are hard to get past.
meerkat stew Posted December 15, 2009 Posted December 15, 2009 I don't think he is gonna budge so long as she still has his balls in her hand.' haha, fair enough, then after the manly kiss, she should lower him to his knees by the balls and say gruffly, "now propose dammit!"
cupidotheblogger Posted December 15, 2009 Posted December 15, 2009 (edited) I'm sure liking you doesn't have as much to do with at as his lack of experience. Next time, YOU take the lead. That way he will have not choice but to follow. Which ever way your tongue goes, his will flow with yours. If you like it slow and sensual, lead him in a slow and sensual way. If you like it fast and rough like to wild animals in heat then get in there, suck his face, bite his lips, etc.....!! Edited December 15, 2009 by cupidotheblogger
threebyfate Posted December 15, 2009 Posted December 15, 2009 How soon into dating did this happen? Or was this just hanging out, first date or further?
InspiredbyYou Posted December 15, 2009 Posted December 15, 2009 If he does that again, just grab him by the balls -hard- and say, "Kiss me like a man or these will be coming back to you in a jar." He should get the message then. OMG you are my hero! Dusk, what it means is he is unfortunately a bad kisser. I dated a guy who kissed like that, for the first time in my life I wanted to punch a man in the face. Needless to say we did not work out. I say give it a few more times to see if it was first time jitters, if this persists he is definitely a terrible kisser. I am not sure how to fix that, as for me, I opted to just get out.
carhill Posted December 15, 2009 Posted December 15, 2009 Also, how can you tell if a guy is really into you through a kiss? Eyes closed, a feeling of abandon, and his, er, somewhat engorged parts pressing against you would be a good indication
JohnnyB Posted December 15, 2009 Posted December 15, 2009 Well, that must have been an interesting first kiss indeed. Bummer that you will remember it as awkward and not-so-special. I have, for myself, established certain guidelines to kissing a girl for the first time. And it has more to do with lips and tongue. The first kiss is something so special, something that should be remembered and cherished forever. When should it happen? Hard to say, but it seems to be that moment when your eyes are locked on eachothers, and some rare elemental force of nature pulls you slightly closer together. That's important to me, that both people are pulled into the first kiss. I always start with just the lips. It's important to hold off on the tongue until you can gather some more information...once you are pulled together, and your lips meet, let it last no longer than 5 seconds or so. Then pull back! It is crucial that you look into her eyes again, so much is being said by what her eyes are saying. And it won't take long to understand if she is as excited about this as you are. But looking into eachothers eyes, reassures each other that you both want this, that this is ok, that you are completely satisfied with everything your are doing, thinking and feeling. Also watch your breathing, I've kissed a girl, then not gone back in for the second part of the kiss because our breathing was so out of sync. My heart was racing, my breath was slow and deep, hers was normal. It just didn't seem right. So, once you've evaluated what's going on, if it seems right, go in for the second part of the kiss. Leave the lips a little loose, Never Force the tongue. And let what happens naturally happen. The first kiss is a beautiful thing...this is just my little perspective on what a kiss is and means. Be cautious, many times guys are lead to believe that they are 'Supposed' to kiss a girl...make sure his heart is in it just as much as his body. Good Luck and God Speed! -JohnnyB
Island Girl Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 Well, that must have been an interesting first kiss indeed. Bummer that you will remember it as awkward and not-so-special. I have, for myself, established certain guidelines to kissing a girl for the first time. And it has more to do with lips and tongue. The first kiss is something so special, something that should be remembered and cherished forever. When should it happen? Hard to say, but it seems to be that moment when your eyes are locked on eachothers, and some rare elemental force of nature pulls you slightly closer together. That's important to me, that both people are pulled into the first kiss. I always start with just the lips. It's important to hold off on the tongue until you can gather some more information...once you are pulled together, and your lips meet, let it last no longer than 5 seconds or so. Then pull back! It is crucial that you look into her eyes again, so much is being said by what her eyes are saying. And it won't take long to understand if she is as excited about this as you are. But looking into eachothers eyes, reassures each other that you both want this, that this is ok, that you are completely satisfied with everything your are doing, thinking and feeling. Also watch your breathing, I've kissed a girl, then not gone back in for the second part of the kiss because our breathing was so out of sync. My heart was racing, my breath was slow and deep, hers was normal. It just didn't seem right. So, once you've evaluated what's going on, if it seems right, go in for the second part of the kiss. Leave the lips a little loose, Never Force the tongue. And let what happens naturally happen. The first kiss is a beautiful thing...this is just my little perspective on what a kiss is and means. Be cautious, many times guys are lead to believe that they are 'Supposed' to kiss a girl...make sure his heart is in it just as much as his body. Good Luck and God Speed! -JohnnyB JohnnyB that is the definitive guide for men who want to make a woman's knees buckle. Great job.
runner Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 Well, that must have been an interesting first kiss indeed. Bummer that you will remember it as awkward and not-so-special. I have, for myself, established certain guidelines to kissing a girl for the first time. And it has more to do with lips and tongue. The first kiss is something so special, something that should be remembered and cherished forever. When should it happen? Hard to say, but it seems to be that moment when your eyes are locked on eachothers, and some rare elemental force of nature pulls you slightly closer together. That's important to me, that both people are pulled into the first kiss. I always start with just the lips. It's important to hold off on the tongue until you can gather some more information...once you are pulled together, and your lips meet, let it last no longer than 5 seconds or so. Then pull back! It is crucial that you look into her eyes again, so much is being said by what her eyes are saying. And it won't take long to understand if she is as excited about this as you are. But looking into eachothers eyes, reassures each other that you both want this, that this is ok, that you are completely satisfied with everything your are doing, thinking and feeling. Also watch your breathing, I've kissed a girl, then not gone back in for the second part of the kiss because our breathing was so out of sync. My heart was racing, my breath was slow and deep, hers was normal. It just didn't seem right. So, once you've evaluated what's going on, if it seems right, go in for the second part of the kiss. Leave the lips a little loose, Never Force the tongue. And let what happens naturally happen. The first kiss is a beautiful thing...this is just my little perspective on what a kiss is and means. Be cautious, many times guys are lead to believe that they are 'Supposed' to kiss a girl...make sure his heart is in it just as much as his body. Good Luck and God Speed! -JohnnyB great stuff. cheers
Author duskandsummer Posted December 16, 2009 Author Posted December 16, 2009 How soon into dating did this happen? Or was this just hanging out, first date or further? I don't really know what we were at the time. We had been texting and I guess "talking" for a little over a year at that point. So one night he asked me to meet him and he got into my car and we had a little small talk and then the kiss happened. For probably not even more than 2 minutes before I just gave up and we moved on to other things lol if you know what I mean. Just fooled around no sex.
Miko Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 Sounds like he just needs to KNOW that he's a bad kisser. I had that problem when I was 16. This girl said I wasn't any good so after that I focused and made out with every girl I could until they started telling me how great it was. Now if some girl were to tell me I was a bad kisser I wouldn't even believe her.
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