thegoose Posted December 15, 2009 Posted December 15, 2009 So my daughter has made a beautiful card for my x . I also told her I would send her cheuque. But I am wondering will it make me look desperate or is it ok to wish her a merry christmas from us...
USMCHokie Posted December 15, 2009 Posted December 15, 2009 Assuming that your ex is your daughter's mother, then I don't really see anything wrong or awkward about sending the card...if she's not the mother...well, I don't know...it is Christmas time...it depends on how 'over it' you are...if you've completely moved on, then you wouldn't care if it made you look desperate, so send the card... I avoid this problem altogether by not sending Christmas cards...
Author thegoose Posted December 15, 2009 Author Posted December 15, 2009 I should just contact you directly as its always you who comments on my posts...She is not the mother nor am I totally over her..I still love her.
USMCHokie Posted December 15, 2009 Posted December 15, 2009 Heh, no worries. Well, whenever children are involved, I'm usually completely lost in the sauce...I don't have any kids of my own, so it's hard for me to know what to do in a given situation... Did your daughter and your ex grow attached to each other in any way? It's really a tough call here...you don't want to give your daughter the wrong impression by tossing the card she made in the garbage...but you don't want to give your ex the wrong idea either...I don't know how things ended or how long it has been... I guess my advice in this situation is that the more frequently you had been in contact with her (annoying, pleading, desperate contact, that is) since the breakup, the more I'd recommend against sending the card... All in all, it's a tough call, like you said...
Yael Posted December 15, 2009 Posted December 15, 2009 Being on the other side - if my ex sent me something his son had done for me I would be sad but touched. Send it. If she cares about your daughter she will probably be sad but happy she was thought about.
mmk1 Posted December 15, 2009 Posted December 15, 2009 Then no, don't send it. It will look desperate and you will only feel like crap because either she'll ignore it or respond with something less than "lets get back together." Assuming she already knows you want her back, you have done all you can. Instead, send one to an old friend or donate some money to charity. It will be more productive. P.S. I am doing the same with my ex - which is nothing.
NopeNah Posted December 15, 2009 Posted December 15, 2009 If your daughter wants to send it let her. It should have zero to do with you and your ex.
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