Eagles Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 As far as background goes, I (26) met this girl (24) via a friend of a friend a couple of weeks ago, and we hit it off. We've gone back and forth a decent amount between texting and talking on the phone and have gone on one real date which went well. Physically nothing too crazy has happened beyond making out but everything seemed to be going in the right direction. I didn't hang out with her at all last weekend as I was in Las Vegas for a bachelor party, and it was not one of my finer performances as far as hitting the booze goes. While in Vegas I was a drunk texting machine, and while none of the content was actually bad I really think I came off way too strong as far as the amount of communication in this phase of getting to know each other. I know at least if I were on the receiving end I would have been a little freaked out, which is ironic because being too forward probably wouldn't be in the top one thousand on the complaints list from other girls I've dated. I didn't want to ignore the issue so I sent her an e-mail when I got back basically acknowledging that I had made a fool out of myself. She, as I expected, did a total 180 from before saying how she didn't really see "us" working out and that she was coming off a prior relationship and wasn't ready to be dating someone etc. Prior to over-texting her things were definitely going smoothly and I'm positive that this was a reaction to me coming across as looking to lock her down. My real question is whether or not this is a salvageable situation and how to go about fixing it. I'm certainly not in love with this girl or anything close to that this early but as far as someone who I've enjoyed getting to know she certainly fits the bill. I'm someone who is generally pessimistic about these things but I do know for sure that prior to me making a jackass out of myself she was in the same boat as she was initiating a lot of the conversations and all of the positive vibe signs were there. Am I doomed here or is there any advice as far as what my next move should be with her?
BG1985 Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 The only chance you have is to back off and hope she comes back to you. At the same time, you need to explore other options so that you don't look needy. Don't expect this to work out though.
Author Eagles Posted December 15, 2009 Author Posted December 15, 2009 The only chance you have is to back off and hope she comes back to you. At the same time, you need to explore other options so that you don't look needy. Don't expect this to work out though. Right, I mean like I said it's not like I'm sitting around devastated over this and I will be seeing what else is out there. Just not sure when/how to approach things with her again.
boogieboy Posted December 15, 2009 Posted December 15, 2009 You cant approach anything with her. You turned her off with those drunk texts, and theres no way to save it. She knows how you are now. Do you even know what you said? Do you still have the texts? A number of things could have turned her off permanently. Being uncontrollably drunk mess, whatever you said to her. You really gotta fix your drunk texting problem first. If youre going to be a drunken mess, leave your phone in the car. All you can do is wait for her to contact you, but she already gave you that lame lie of "im not ready". Shes full of it, she was ready when you two were dating. How could you f*ck that up like that???
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