9Lives Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 4year relationship...lots of up and down...he doesnt want a relationship but will hang out and stuff....seeing someone else....havent talked to him in almost 2 months. I had a conversation today with my best friend and it just made me realize that this guy is gone. It hurt so much. I put my all into him and he just wants to do whatever he wants with no string attached now. We have been struggling for a while and now I think this is the last straw for us. Im just trying to accept it and move on. I wish he would come back and make things right but he wants to be free to do whatever makes him happy and that is the bottom line. It is tough!!
whichwayisup Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 Sorry you're hurting 9. I know as much as you want him, and love him, he cannot be who you want him to be, nor can he give you what you want. Just take it all in stride, one day at a time.. It'll get easier, especially since NC is in place. But please, do yourself a little favour, stop wishing he'd come back..All that does is give you hope, your heart anyway..And in your thoughts..Remember the reality.
nobmagnet Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 big big hugs im so sorry you feel so blue. If he was "all that" he would be with you right now.right? He wansnt right for you because he didnt have the same love as you. xxxxxx
Author 9Lives Posted December 14, 2009 Author Posted December 14, 2009 big big hugs im so sorry you feel so blue. If he was "all that" he would be with you right now.right? He wansnt right for you because he didnt have the same love as you. xxxxxx I know but why why why..I know you cant answer that questions. I just have to live thru this sht!!!I have never been so hurt like this in my life.
nobmagnet Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 me too my love. I cant explain it. If I could we would all read my book, get better instantly and move on. Its crap. I am in the fortunate position of being able to see my man for what he is. He isnt a good man..........but he was my man. All I can say to you is that there are loving giving people out there when and if you are ever ready. He was not the man for you as in all honesty......you were far far too good for him.
Author 9Lives Posted December 14, 2009 Author Posted December 14, 2009 me too my love. I cant explain it. If I could we would all read my book, get better instantly and move on. Its crap. I am in the fortunate position of being able to see my man for what he is. He isnt a good man..........but he was my man. All I can say to you is that there are loving giving people out there when and if you are ever ready. He was not the man for you as in all honesty......you were far far too good for him. crying...wow
Odyssey Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 Sometimes its painfully hard to really let go, but it will be easier than holding on to something that isn’t there 9Lives.
e.clipse Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 hearbreak is quite possibly one of the worst feelings one can endure, but that is exactly what you have to do -- endure. love, like almost everything else, fades with time, especially if it is one-sided, however slightly. this feeling of hopelessness you have now will not stay with you forever; nothing does, really. and just like you learned to love him and make him such an important part of your life, you will learn to stop loving and to make him no longer any part of your life. posts like these will sound empty and devoid of feeling or understanding, i'm sure. however, rest assured that whoever does say this to you has, in fact, gone though all of the heartache, devastation, and unimaginable sadness, but, well, no one dies from love; you will get through it in your due time. you just have to live it.
adamt Posted December 15, 2009 Posted December 15, 2009 just hang in there. i was where you were a few months ago. you will get better. just stay ultra busy so you have no time to think about the ex. remove anything that reminds them of you. if beeen working hard on myself improving myself and getting into shape. i've met a stunning girl who i would never think i would get a chance with. she could turn out to be better than my ex. So you wilol meet someone better when you are ready. there is plenty more fish in the sea, just that you have to work hard sorting yourself out to find them
Author 9Lives Posted December 15, 2009 Author Posted December 15, 2009 Thank you all alot. Today was a very low point in my life. I did get a big check tho....lol I have never had my heart broken and let me tell you...it feels like sht!!! i am so f'd up right now. It hell for real. But you guys helped me alot today to get thru it and pick my head up. It has not been easy. I think I can make it to the next phase. The sun is going to shine again for me one day...one day
adamt Posted December 15, 2009 Posted December 15, 2009 i've been where you are. breaking down at work, cant eat or sleep, crying in my car, cant get out of bed...it is a long journey but what you need to do is focus on yourself and give yourself no time to think about your ex. read books just before going to bed, join a gym,take up some hobbies, dont spend time at home alone too much at night, catch up with friends and family, dontbe afraid to cry or show emotion. jsut dont contact the ex. you may need to push yourself and take tiny step. you may have set backs but focus on what i have written then eventually you wil feel better and your confidence will return. find things to do that you enjoy, try new things nearly everybody has their heart broken at somepoint and in most cases they all find someone else. dont rush into a rebound relationship. someone wil lcome along once you are back to your happy self. but you have to be determined to move on, self pity will not let you move on.
Brightmoon Posted December 15, 2009 Posted December 15, 2009 (((9Lives and anyone else hurting))) It is so hard when you realise that it really is over and you will never see them again:(. A suffocating feeling. It makes you cling to hope. A vicious circle. Got to be broken though. Little by little.
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