sunshine94 Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 Some years ago my ex left me for a multi-millionaires. We were together for about a year and we were talking marriage. He told me that he loved me but wanted to get a business out of the woman. He wanted me to stay with him while he had sex with her and got the business. I refused and he left me. She was married at the time with 2 kids, but later left her husband for him. He got a business out of her, a house, a car and money. After he got those things he left her. About 8 months after he left her he tried to get back with me, I was seeing someone else at the time but even if I was single I would not have wanted him back. He said that I was very stupid to have not gone along with him while he was with her cause it would have benefitted me also. I did not want to do this cause I felt that it was wrong to use someone like that just for money. To this day it still bothers me that he left me for another women simply cause she was rich. It took me a very long time to get over it. It made me very depressed for a long time. What would you have done in my situation? In general would you choose someone you really love or someone who is rich?
quankanne Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 I would have chosen someone who loved me back and who respected me. Money is nothing; I can earn what I need to get by, you know? this guy is a jackass for even thinking you'd lower yourself to those standards. Or lack thereor!
donnamaybe Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 You wouldn't want a guy who was capable of doing something like that to someone anyway. If he has that little integrity, imagine what he could think up to do to you!
InspiredbyYou Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 Is he nuts? You should have stayed with him while he used another woman for money and slept with the two of you for the promise of letting you reap some of the financial benefits? What a douchebag, and what exactly did he peg you for to think that you would go for that? I would be highly offended if I were you. Don't even second guess it, you did the right thing 100%. Don't look back!
Lish Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 Love! For sure. Without boasting (really, I'm not), I come from a wealthy family and I've had a taste of the "rich" life. It really does NOT buy happiness. At all.
Boundary Problem Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 Love! For sure. Without boasting (really, I'm not), I come from a wealthy family and I've had a taste of the "rich" life. It really does NOT buy happiness. At all. Best post of the day! BP
Author sunshine94 Posted December 14, 2009 Author Posted December 14, 2009 If he has that little integrity, imagine what he could think up to do to you! You are right! If he could do it to her, it was just a matter of time before he did me something really hurtfull also. Plus he left me for her. Down the road if I had gotten back with him he would have left me for someone who had more money or younger or whatever other reason. Apparently he did not even need a reason to leave me, just simply greed of money.
donnamaybe Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 You are right! If he could do it to her, it was just a matter of time before he did me something really hurtfull also. Plus he left me for her. Down the road if I had gotten back with him he would have left me for someone who had more money or younger or whatever other reason. Apparently he did not even need a reason to leave me, just simply greed of money. And the fact that you refused to participate in "using" someone like he planned to proves you deserve a better man anyway. Yes, love is the only way!!!
Art_Critic Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 I would no doubt go for the Love... but.... If it was a choice between Happiness and being poor OR Being well off/rich and semi happy I can tell you that I'd pick the money over the happiness any day of the week. While money can not buy happiness or love, being poor isn't exactly all peaches and cream either...
Author sunshine94 Posted December 14, 2009 Author Posted December 14, 2009 [quote=Lish;2539492 Love! For sure. Without boasting (really, I'm not), I come from a wealthy family and I've had a taste of the "rich" life. It really does NOT buy happiness. At all. There is a saying that money does not make you happy. You coming from a wealthy family and knowing what it is like to be wealthy, confirms that this saying is true.
threebyfate Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 This isn't about money. It's about staying with or ditching a dirtbag.
Author sunshine94 Posted December 14, 2009 Author Posted December 14, 2009 While money can not buy happiness or love, being poor isn't exactly all peaches and cream either... Her money bought her fake love and happiness from him until he got what he wanted. He was so very good at fooling her that she left her husband for him, as soon as he got what he wanted he left her in a big hurry.
threebyfate Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 There are all kinds of wrong in this thread: The Ex = dirtbag extraordinaire. The married woman who had the affair, thus lacked ethics, was dumber than a bag of hammers, to have gifted him with the things she did, without any strings attached. For a business, you don't buy it for someone you barely know. You buy it under a corporate umbrella, allowing him to manage it, with incentives built into an employer/employee relationship and the understanding that you won't back anything else, beyond your initial investment. If he can't make the business work, the business goes into bankruptcy. As for the car and any other big ticket item, your name should be on the registration. He's only entitled to borrow them, for personal usage. As for the OP, why are you questioning the scenario of leaving him? Do you really want to become a dirtbag like the ex?
Author sunshine94 Posted December 14, 2009 Author Posted December 14, 2009 There are all kinds of wrong in this thread: The Ex = dirtbag extraordinaire. The married woman who had the affair, thus lacked ethics, was dumber than a bag of hammers, to have gifted him with the things she did, without any strings attached. For a business, you don't buy it for someone you barely know. You buy it under a corporate umbrella, allowing him to manage it, with incentives built into an employer/employee relationship and the understanding that you won't back anything else, beyond your initial investment. If he can't make the business work, the business goes into bankruptcy. As for the car and any other big ticket item, your name should be on the registration. He's only entitled to borrow them, for personal usage. As for the OP, why are you questioning the scenario of leaving him? Do you really want to become a dirtbag like the ex? My ex and I both live in St Maarten (Dutch Caribbean) and his rich woman was an american lady. She hid money from his ex husband by putting the business, house and car in my ex's name. She thought that she would move to SXM and be with my ex and then she would not have to share that money that she gave my ex in a divorce. So she tried to "steal " from her ex husband and lost everything. She had no grounds to stand on because everything was in my ex's name. The business could not be in her name because she is not from St Maarten and also not a legal resident. I do not want to get back with him, I am just curious as to know what other people would choose, love or money. I later found out from a friend of his that he was seeing this woman for about 2 years before he started seeing me. She came to St Maarten about 3-4 times a year with her husband and kids.
alphamale Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 In general would you choose someone you really love or someone who is rich? i would choose some chick who is rich then divorce her after a few years, take half her money and then look for true love
threebyfate Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 My ex and I both live in St Maarten (Dutch Caribbean) and his rich woman was an american lady. She hid money from his ex husband by putting the business, house and car in my ex's name. She thought that she would move to SXM and be with my ex and then she would not have to share that money that she gave my ex in a divorce. So she tried to "steal " from her ex husband and lost everything. She had no grounds to stand on because everything was in my ex's name. The business could not be in her name because she is not from St Maarten and also not a legal resident. I do not want to get back with him, I am just curious as to know what other people would choose, love or money. I later found out from a friend of his that he was seeing this woman for about 2 years before he started seeing me. She came to St Maarten about 3-4 times a year with her husband and kids.It's not possible to "hide" money like that, in this day and age of electronic medium. There are enough audit trails to track it back to source. Something doesn't smell right in this story.
Author sunshine94 Posted December 14, 2009 Author Posted December 14, 2009 i would choose some chick who is rich then divorce her after a few years, take half her money and then look for true love You are very honest to say that!
InspiredbyYou Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 Of course it's possible to hide money from your spouse it's called off-shoring and it's also putting assets under other's names. There are all sorts of ways to hide money.
Author sunshine94 Posted December 14, 2009 Author Posted December 14, 2009 Of course it's possible to hide money from your spouse it's called off-shoring and it's also putting assets under other's names. There are all sorts of ways to hide money. That is exactly how she hid the money with off shoring.
threebyfate Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 Try it sometime and see what happens, when you do stupid things like try to hide assets offshore, to avoid a divorce settlement especially including infidelity. People need to learn a few things, before they spout.
InspiredbyYou Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 That is exactly how she hid the money with off shoring. Of course she did, people do that all the time. There ain't nothin' you can do to track it. Go try to get get some information from a Cayman Islands bank. Unless you are huge corporation and you are laundering money on a regular basis then you can track it through a passport, a small time person can totally get away with it through tax shelters.
DustySaltus Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 All I know is when I've chosen "love" it has always wound up costing me a lot of money.....
InspiredbyYou Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 People need to learn a few things, before they spout. Including you?
Author sunshine94 Posted December 14, 2009 Author Posted December 14, 2009 Try it sometime and see what happens, when you do stupid things like try to hide assets offshore, to avoid a divorce settlement especially including infidelity. People need to learn a few things, before they spout. She was the one with the money and not her ex husband, so I think that is why she got away with the off shoring. She came from a very wealthy family.
threebyfate Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 Don't believe everything you see on TV, in a movie, or read about, in thriller novels or scandal rags. To successfully hide money, takes a lot more than changing names on assets, like a house and moving money offshore, within a year or two, of divorce proceedings.
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