name witheld Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 So its been a couple of weeks since I was last on, things been going ok with girl in that time and I've also been quite busy too. Anyways (read my other posts for background) in a nutshell we're back in LC after about a month since she broke NC and overall we have positive progress. Been broke up for months. I thought she was pulling away again but she took steps back this weekend and stayed over (we have been staying over at each others places for a few weeks). We have gotten physical and that has been great! We are not back together yet but this could be the start of it. Feels a lot like when we got together in the first place. However, I am cautious as we are not there yet. She still has some resistance but I think maybe we'll just keep taking baby steps and that will reduce as things progress. We have not spoken about getting back together, but we have spoken about things to do witht he relationship in an honest and open way. We have also been having a lot of fun just being around each other. There are a couple of things I'm concerned about, but perhaps I'm expecting too much too soon. Knowing her this is most likely to be the case and I will just have to be patient. She is unlikely to admit to wanting to or getting back together until we are actually are! (if that makes sense) I've taken a measurement of a ring she wears (just in case) and am strongly considering proposing. It would certainly show her my sincerity! However, I'm not keen on doing that until things are a bit more stable. So maybe a catch 22 there. Finding out from some more people that before the breakup she was looking for a gesture from me (ie commitment related), so I'm pretty sure thats what she wants. Just hope its not too late. But then again maybe I'm reading into all this wrong and her feelings changed etc. Will just have to wait and see I guess. Will be interesting to see what happens next.
sean1970 Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 I've taken a measurement of a ring she wears (just in case) and am strongly considering proposing. It would certainly show her my sincerity!. Um... No...
Author name witheld Posted December 23, 2009 Author Posted December 23, 2009 Well as it turns out I was reading it wrong. Everything came to a head last week and although we got stuff out in the open, there is no way back. It was indeed her feelings, how stupid to overlook that! But thats it this time, we have been in LC twice but no third time. I have told her that we cannot be friends and that we can't see each other anymore. So NC it is, although its not really NC I suppose. Its new life. Surprising how a lot of people on here are right. Sometimes we just have to find that out for ourselves. In fact maybe I would have been better off taking some of the advice I gave to other people!!
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