Samari Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 A friend of mine brought up something that is kind of annoying when one thinks about it. You go to a club expecting to have a good time and dance with some girls. In most cases girls in clubs are dressed very provocative and sexy. I've found that a good amount of women will flaunt their independence and a lot of the times behave quite rudely when a guy hits on them or tries to dance with them in a club environment...even if the guy is sincere in his approach. Some examples include making comments like "no touching" if you try to dance with certain girls, or stand in a "dance circle" with their female friends preventing any male interference. My main gripe is, if you go to a club dressed like a ho, don't be surprised if men try to hit on you. Yes there are dangerous guys out there, but if you're that cautious about it, then why go to a club in the first place? Why put yourself in a situation that you believe has the potential to get out of hand? Perhaps I'm misguided about this. If this is the case then please enlightenment on what I'm not understanding. I'm guessing it's just an issue with our society, but I just want to make sure my criticism is legitimate. Thank you.
lovebubble Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 aw, you sound quite bitter. so basically any woman that is provocatively dressed is required to dance with you? you must be quite the guy. if she's dancing in a circle with her friends, maybe she came to the club to have fun with her friends? or better yet, maybe she's looking for a particular type of man to dance with.. and its not you. don't take it so personally.
Author Samari Posted December 14, 2009 Author Posted December 14, 2009 (edited) aw, you sound quite bitter. so basically any woman that is provocatively dressed is required to dance with you? you must be quite the guy. if she's dancing in a circle with her friends, maybe she came to the club to have fun with her friends? or better yet, maybe she's looking for a particular type of man to dance with.. and its not you. don't take it so personally. I never said that any woman that is dressed in a provocative manner is required to dance with me...I mentioned that it shouldn't be a surprise to women who are dressed that way to be hit on in the club by guys (also with the implication that an attitude isn't necessary if you are sincere in your approach). Where did I say that any woman dressed in a provocative manner is required to dance with me? This thread had nothing to do with me potentially being turned down if I inquire about a dance. I usually don't have trouble with the matter...but it doesn't mean that I'm not curious about what else I've seen go on in the same atmosphere...or why some women act in certain ways. Even if a girl goes to a club with her friends...I still find it illogical to venture to a place you feel uncomfortable with. How can you have a good time in a place if you feel uncomfortable in that same area...with your friends around? Your last statement makes sense, I'll give you that. But that doesn't explain some comments such as "no touching". If women don't want to be touched, that's fine. No issue with that. However at the same time this is the 21st century and when you go to a club there is a lot of touching going on with modern forms of dance...which brings me back to the point of if you feel uncomfortable in the environment, then why go? Or if you don't want anyone touching you while dancing in a club...then don't let that guy dance with you in the first place or like I said, just stay home. Places like that you don't really have a lot of control and it seems like a woman would be miserable the entire time trying to fight of guys (especially if she's a looker) and telling them "no touching", "no grinding", etc...since guys generally don't ask. I'm not stereotyping women in the club, but make no mistake, there are certain girls in those hot spots that spit fire when you sincerely inquire a mere dance. I've had a couple of times when a woman has shown attitude when asking if she wants a dance...and I've had some ridiculous responses...such as "sure if you buy me and my friend a drink"...I usually just chuckle at how pathetic they are and move on. Edited December 14, 2009 by Samari
LucreziaBorgia Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 A good deal of the time, women aren't dressing to kill and going to clubs in order to pick up men or be picked up by men. They are doing it to soak up attention from males, and compete with other females to see who can be the hottest bitch in the place. You'd be surprised how many of them have boyfriends, actually. Its all about AW'ing for a lot of them. Not much to do with picking up men or even trying to.
Author Samari Posted December 14, 2009 Author Posted December 14, 2009 Dave Chappelle has a funny opinion on this topic.
deebeechrisyo Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 Agreed, women dress up in clubs to be the hottest bitch in the place. If you are hot, she will dance with and most likely grind on you to raise her hot bitch meter. This is also good for you, as other hotties will become jealous and you will have the attention of the room. These girls do not have any interest in you whatsoever. Some girls do go out with their girlfriends just to have a good time, but in this case they will not act rudely toward guys. They will probably be quite nice and most likely flirty.
Awesome Username Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 (edited) No matter how provocatively a woman is dressed, she does not deserve to get hassled or overly hit on, and it doesn't mean that she's trying to go home with a guy. Often, women will only dress that way when they have a group of friends around her that protect her from guys that get the wrong idea. Guys CERTAINLY should respect the no-touch rule. You can't even touch strippers in strip clubs when you're getting a lap dance - why should it be any different for normal, every day women in a club? In fact, I would say that you should probably let you touch her first. Nothing creeps me out than a guy thinking he can grope me if I say yes to dancing. The problem is that women go to clubs to have fun, and men go to clubs to get laid (in general). Guys don't understand why a girl would want to look hot and go out, and not get grinded on or taken home. It's simply the way it is - sometimes women dress hot because they know they can, and because they can look cute with a group of friends. That's what it was like when girls were young and played barbies with clothes, or with Bratz dolls. Girls simply like dressing for the occasion and dancing. Sometimes They are taken, and don't even want to dance with guys - just their friends. A big reason why I'm not up to going to clubs is because every time I dance with a guy, WITHOUT FAIL he expects something else, and is shocked when I decide to dance with someone else. I even had one dude who thought it was cute to cut in on a guy I was dancing with, because I was "HIS." He bought me drinks, so he thought that he had the right to claim me for the rest of the night. Sorry, bro. It takes more than a few drinks and a dance for me to want to come home with you. I'm not going to blame you for thinking that way because logically it makes sense that women would look hot and dance with men to get laid. Very often that is not the case though, and you should accept how it is and how women feel instead of getting angry. No matter what her reasoning behind deciding to go out dressed provocatively, a woman in a tube top and heels owes nobody anything. Girls should not be shocked if a guy asks to dance, but it's the handsy men that truly ruin the chances of for the men who can handle themselves. Edited December 14, 2009 by Awesome Username
Author Samari Posted December 14, 2009 Author Posted December 14, 2009 No matter how provocatively a woman is dressed, she does not deserve to get hassled or overly hit on, and it doesn't mean that she's trying to go home with a guy. Often, women will only dress that way when they have a group of friends around her that protect her from guys that get the wrong idea. Guys CERTAINLY should respect the no-touch rule. You can't even touch strippers in strip clubs when you're getting a lap dance - why should it be any different for normal, every day women in a club? In fact, I would say that you should probably let you touch her first. Nothing creeps me out than a guy thinking he can grope me if I say yes to dancing. The problem is that women go to clubs to have fun, and men go to clubs to get laid (in general). Guys don't understand why a girl would want to look hot and go out, and not get grinded on or taken home. It's simply the way it is - sometimes women dress hot because they know they can, and because they can look cute with a group of friends. That's what it was like when girls were young and played barbies with clothes, or with Bratz dolls. Girls simply like dressing for the occasion and dancing. Sometimes They are taken, and don't even want to dance with guys - just their friends. A big reason why I'm not up to going to clubs is because every time I dance with a guy, WITHOUT FAIL he expects something else, and is shocked when I decide to dance with someone else. I even had one dude who thought it was cute to cut in on a guy I was dancing with, because I was "HIS." He bought me drinks, so he thought that he had the right to claim me for the rest of the night. Sorry, bro. It takes more than a few drinks and a dance for me to want to come home with you. I'm not going to blame you for thinking that way because logically it makes sense that women would look hot and dance with men to get laid. Very often that is not the case though, and you should accept how it is and how women feel instead of getting angry. No matter what her reasoning behind deciding to go out dressed provocatively, a woman in a tube top and heels owes nobody anything. Girls should not be shocked if a guy asks to dance, but it's the handsy men that truly ruin the chances of for the men who can handle themselves.Good post.
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