Nathan Drake Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 Hey, im new to the site and dating in general. I need some advice from any one who is willing to take the time to give it. Ok so there is this girl in one of my classes who i thought was attractive, we've talked once before and i decided to ask her out. So after our final exam i approached her and made a bit of small talk then asked her if she would like to grab a cup of coffee sometime. She said yes and she gave me her number. I thought the exchange went well(aside from me being really nervous), i mean she didnt just give me her number and leave, she asked me if i was going to be in town over the holidays and she asked me where i was from, that kind of thing. Ok, so that was on Friday, well to the advice of one of my female friends, i gave her a call Saturday. She didn't answer the phone. My friend advised me to shoot her a casual text the day after. So Saturday, i sent her a text just saying hey, its so and so from class. No reply. So now what do i do? I have friends saying don't give up yet, send her another text later in the week saying hey, wishing them a happy holidays, that type of thing, but dont call her again. I have other friends saying, give her another call, if u don't get an answer, leave a message stating that you'd like to get together while making it clear that you will stop calling if she doesn't respond(but not in a demanding way of course). So can anyone give me some advice. Should i accept that this girl is just not into me, or should i push a little bit harder? Thanks in advance.
Lish Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 Hey, im new to the site and dating in general. I need some advice from any one who is willing to take the time to give it. Ok so there is this girl in one of my classes who i thought was attractive, we've talked once before and i decided to ask her out. So after our final exam i approached her and made a bit of small talk then asked her if she would like to grab a cup of coffee sometime. She said yes and she gave me her number. I thought the exchange went well(aside from me being really nervous), i mean she didnt just give me her number and leave, she asked me if i was going to be in town over the holidays and she asked me where i was from, that kind of thing. Ok, so that was on Friday, well to the advice of one of my female friends, i gave her a call Saturday. She didn't answer the phone. My friend advised me to shoot her a casual text the day after. So Saturday, i sent her a text just saying hey, its so and so from class. No reply. So now what do i do? I have friends saying don't give up yet, send her another text later in the week saying hey, wishing them a happy holidays, that type of thing, but dont call her again. I have other friends saying, give her another call, if u don't get an answer, leave a message stating that you'd like to get together while making it clear that you will stop calling if she doesn't respond(but not in a demanding way of course). So can anyone give me some advice. Should i accept that this girl is just not into me, or should i push a little bit harder? Thanks in advance. As it stands, I'd say uninterested. But there's nothing wrong with giving it one more go. I agree with your friend - maybe leave her a message (or a text) saying you'd like to see her again. And just tell her that if shes not interested, you wish her well and you wont contact her again (if you do this via text, be VERY careful of how you word it... things get read wrongly ALL the time).
Author Nathan Drake Posted December 14, 2009 Author Posted December 14, 2009 As it stands, I'd say uninterested. But there's nothing wrong with giving it one more go. I agree with your friend - maybe leave her a message (or a text) saying you'd like to see her again. And just tell her that if shes not interested, you wish her well and you wont contact her again (if you do this via text, be VERY careful of how you word it... things get read wrongly ALL the time). Yea, thats kind of what i thought. Thanks for the help.
silic0ntoad Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 I agree with Lish. I've found generally people are too spineless to simply say hey, I am not interested. They simply ignore you. So yeah, not interested.
Bejita463 Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 I think Lish nailed it. I'd toss a message on the voicemail over a text, but either way it is not exactly like you have anything to lose by giving it a final attempt.
carhill Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 OP, good on ya for making the move to date right away. If this one doesn't pan out (I'll add my vote for disinterested), there's always the next one
DustySaltus Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 I think that after two contacts it's safe to say she got the message. If you have to continue to chase her the juice probably isn't worth the squeeze. I don't know if another text saying happy holidays would neccesarily work or maybe it work work just enough for her to string you along a little bit longer. When someone wants to hang out they are a lot more receptive.
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