Why do I feel like the dumper now?

[XKatieX]

Its been a little over a month since my ex called it quits between us. It was about a month of NC, he started sending me short messages and little by little we were talking everyday again..although short casual conversations. Hes already said a few weeks ago he wasn't going back, yet its like he still tries to play head games with me. He says things like '"oh is that your new boyfriend" or "how do you parents feel about life after us" I've gotten to the point where I feel like he keeps giving me false hope and every time he talks to me I just want to let go and never look back. I've been going back and forth in my mind debating whether I should shut off all contact for good or just to talk casually with him like we've been doing. I told him about this today that I wasn't sure what I wanted to do and he says he knew it was coming, he knew I was going to move on and change my mind one day..making me feel like I was the one that ended things. I also think a big part of it is, neither one of us has many friends, for the past 3 years we've always only had each other..another thing that makes it very hard to shut off contact.

 

I just don't understand why he plays with my emotions so much, it drives me crazy..and I just keep going back and forth. Any advice on what to do?

 

 

 

btw this is my story if you don't know it already http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t211044/

Edited December 14, 2009 by XKatieX

[sugarmomma]

I read your other post and I can relate since a lack of respect was the reason my marriage failed. Its really hard to take back hurtful words that have been said whether they were said in anger or not. I don't know if you guys can work things out moving forward but just work on yourself and be more respectful of your next partner and make sure they are respectful of you. Someone told me that it is impossible to love someone that you don't respect and it hit me like a brick. I really wish you the best going forward.