knime32 Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 So its been 2 weeks since my ex boyfriend and I broke up. We had been together for 6 years. I backed off and gave him space to take time to think and make sure that this is what he really wanted and I tried to call him to get closure and he wouldn't even talk to me. He called me back and said that I was too controlling, uptight and that he never intended on having a future with me and he just stayed for 6 years for no reason. I don't believe anything he says, because I know I'm not controlling or uptight and I know that I wouldn't have spent 6 years in a relationship with someone who I didn't feel wanted a future with me. We talked about marriage and kids for heavens sake! I think this is a case of an immature boy who doesn't want to grow up and be a man. He's 22 years old and still lives at home with his parents even though he has the means to live out on his own.
LovelyDaze Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 Two weeks isn't anything. You need to continue NC only to move on with your life. I take it you two were together since you were 15 or 16? You two in this case, are just growing up. As you grown into being an adult, you look at the world different than you used to and if your in a relationship, that is especially difficult. Go back to NC and work on yourself alone.
Author knime32 Posted December 16, 2009 Author Posted December 16, 2009 We've been dating since we were 16. Both of us have done a lot of growing up and maturing. I think I reached a level of emtional maturity that he's just not at yet in his life. I just don't understand why he would tell me and all of our friends and his friends and family that he wanted a future with me if he didn't want one? Did he just tell me this to make me mad or does he really feel like that? I just feel everything in our relationship was contradictory to the fact that he "didn't want a future"
iamlegend008 Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 If you want to send a message to him, start opening your mind up to seeing new people to show him you're ready to move on. When my ex of 3 years (16 to 19 years old) found a new guy in a couple months after i broke up with her, it hit me hard. He's not going to realize what he lost till he can't have it anymore. He's going to want you back when he sees you're ready to move on with your life. Whether you want to take him back is your choice. It ate me up inside thinking about my one and only love with another man. I took her virginity and spent so much time with her. I'm still not over it
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