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I don't have big muscles or alluring eyes. I don't have any tattoos or piercings. I'm black and intellectual. I've never been to jail. I've never been married and I don't have any children. I'm 2 semesters away from starting my doctoral studies in Forensic Psychology. I don't wear fancy clothing. I don't own an iPhone (or any cell phone with a keyboard) and I don't text. I don't want to have sex with anyone, just a meaningful friendship/ relationship. I don't play the field and I'm marriage-minded. I'm a kid at heart, want a family of my own someday, and find something seriously twisted with the social acceptance of divorce and young, single parenthood. Cleavage and women that wear their pants tight for the wedgie-look doesn't turn me on. By the way, is that comfortable? I'm respectful yet adventurous and I can be categorically filed somewhere between Poindexter and Vin Diesel.

My roommate, a convicted felon for beating up his pregnant girlfriend and others, gets all the ladies. He has beautiful blue eyes, prison tattoos, frequently checks in with a probation officer, has 2 kids that live 2000 miles away with their mother, and has multiple girlfriends that don't know about each other.

What am I doing wrong? Do I have a skewed view of what women want or is my roommate the type of guy most women are attracted to?

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Why would you be roommates with a guy like that? Move out. I mean are the women he brings home the kind you want to date, anyway?

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Dj, thats funny and true..

 

I posted a thread here about serial killers who receive thousands of fan mail letters from women lined up to marry them.. I do not undertsand it myself..

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And, if you do bring a chick home, they will probably want him.

Get a new roomate.

jeez.

How many deadbolts do you have on your bedroom door?

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There could be a number of reasons these women all go for him. The only way to find out is to go with him when he looks for them and find out his techniques, let him teach them to you.

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I don't have big muscles or alluring eyes. I don't have any tattoos or piercings. I'm black and intellectual. I've never been to jail. I've never been married and I don't have any children. I'm 2 semesters away from starting my doctoral studies in Forensic Psychology. I don't wear fancy clothing. I don't own an iPhone (or any cell phone with a keyboard) and I don't text. I don't want to have sex with anyone, just a meaningful friendship/ relationship. I don't play the field and I'm marriage-minded. I'm a kid at heart, want a family of my own someday, and find something seriously twisted with the social acceptance of divorce and young, single parenthood. Cleavage and women that wear their pants tight for the wedgie-look doesn't turn me on. By the way, is that comfortable? I'm respectful yet adventurous and I can be categorically filed somewhere between Poindexter and Vin Diesel.

My roommate, a convicted felon for beating up his pregnant girlfriend and others, gets all the ladies. He has beautiful blue eyes, prison tattoos, frequently checks in with a probation officer, has 2 kids that live 2000 miles away with their mother, and has multiple girlfriends that don't know about each other.

What am I doing wrong? Do I have a skewed view of what women want or is my roommate the type of guy most women are attracted to?

 

 

Well what type of women is he attracting? What type are you going for? You sounds like a great guy, I'd give you a shot ;) Just hang in there!

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the women that he is attracting are probably just as low--- down as he is. Any decent woman is looking for a decent man---just let your actions show that you are "open" to the idea.

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Why would you be roommates with a guy like that? Move out. I mean are the women he brings home the kind you want to date, anyway?

 

This was my second thought.

 

My first thought was...I wonder if there is anybody who would answer the wedgie question..."is that comfortable?":lmao:

 

Anyway, OP, what kind of woman do you want to meet?

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I don't have big muscles or alluring eyes. I don't have any tattoos or piercings. I'm black and intellectual. I've never been to jail. I've never been married and I don't have any children. I'm 2 semesters away from starting my doctoral studies in Forensic Psychology. I don't wear fancy clothing. I don't own an iPhone (or any cell phone with a keyboard) and I don't text. I don't want to have sex with anyone, just a meaningful friendship/ relationship. I don't play the field and I'm marriage-minded. I'm a kid at heart, want a family of my own someday, and find something seriously twisted with the social acceptance of divorce and young, single parenthood. Cleavage and women that wear their pants tight for the wedgie-look doesn't turn me on. By the way, is that comfortable? I'm respectful yet adventurous and I can be categorically filed somewhere between Poindexter and Vin Diesel.

My roommate, a convicted felon for beating up his pregnant girlfriend and others, gets all the ladies. He has beautiful blue eyes, prison tattoos, frequently checks in with a probation officer, has 2 kids that live 2000 miles away with their mother, and has multiple girlfriends that don't know about each other.

What am I doing wrong? Do I have a skewed view of what women want or is my roommate the type of guy most women are attracted to?

 

 

Your roommate is a bad boy. Unfortunately for nice guys like you, alot of girls seem to like that. & why?

- the danger could be a turn on.

- I guess there's the assumption that a 'bad boy' is more of a player, therefore more sexually experienced and girls may think they're more capable of banging them into next week than a nice guy. (btw, why would you be envious of someone pulling girls like that.. when you want something more meaningful?)

- some stupid girls seem to think they will be the ONE that will be able to soften a bad boy up.. I dunno why, maybe they want to feel important?

 

The scenario between you & ya roomie is this: nice guys finish last. But not really...

 

In the long run, when girls grow up and realise they can't change people who aren't ready, they will go for the nice ones like you when they want to settle down. So don't give up. :)

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You can take solace in the fact that these women he attracts will be used up and spit out before they hit 30. Mayber you can try dating older women.

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My roommate, a convicted felon for beating up his pregnant girlfriend and others, gets all the ladies. He has beautiful blue eyes, prison tattoos, frequently checks in with a probation officer, has 2 kids that live 2000 miles away with their mother, and has multiple girlfriends that don't know about each other.

What am I doing wrong? Do I have a skewed view of what women want or is my roommate the type of guy most women are attracted to?

 

Some girls just like truly bad guys. If you are too nice, they are not all that interested.

 

I think the bad guys are more exciting to them and its thrilling to be in relationships with these guys. I also think some girls date bad guys because they think they can change them, or deep down they think the guy will change. It really is confusing if you think about it.

 

I would never go near a guy who in a convicted felon and beats up his pregnant GF. You would have to be a nut to date him, I'm sure of it.

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My roommate, a convicted felon for beating up his pregnant girlfriend and others, gets all the ladies. He has beautiful blue eyes, prison tattoos, frequently checks in with a probation officer, has 2 kids that live 2000 miles away with their mother, and has multiple girlfriends that don't know about each other.
This is an almost verbatim definition of LOSER! :sick:

What am I doing wrong?
I have no idea, since you have far more appealing traits than your loser roommate.

Do I have a skewed view of what women want or is my roommate the type of guy most women are attracted to?
You have a skewed view of what women want. The only type of women who are into someone like your roommate, are Jerry Springer-style women. If that's the type of women you find attractive, by all means, start working on your tats.
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Yet another thread that tries to make it seem like men are these wonderful perfect creatures that would never hurt a fly and all women are the scum of the earth and want ex cons.

 

OP, you sound like a very cool guy. Except for your post which is exceedingly condesending towards all women just because of your one experience with your roomate.

 

Are the women he attracts the kind of women you wish to have relationships with yourself? For some reason I sincerely doubt they are. Do you honestly think that he attracts ALL women?

 

Yes, some women like bad boys. Just like some men like bad girls and keep going after the super hot girl that treats him like dirt. I am sincerely tired of the BS and whining on LS about men who want to make it seem that all women want ex cons and that's why no woman wants to date him, because he is such a superieor man with perfection oozing from his ears and it couldn't be anything he might do that might turn a woman off.

 

All your credentials are wondeful on paper. But we all know that it takes more then just being "nice" to build a relationship. No man here would base his romantic choice on just a "nice" girl. Please stop holding women to that ideal and then becoming slanderous to women just because they don't want to date you for whatever reason.

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In the long run, when girls grow up and realise they can't change people who aren't ready, they will go for the nice ones like you when they want to settle down. So don't give up. :)

 

I am not entirely certain why this sparked this particular thought, but since it did and it made me giggle, I am going to share it:

 

Yay! Sloppy seconds!

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I am not entirely certain why this sparked this particular thought, but since it did and it made me giggle, I am going to share it:

 

Yay! Sloppy seconds!

HAHAHAHA :lmao: I read that earlier, but didn't make the connection you did. That's great. After they're used up, you can have all the hood rats you want, OP. :)

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No man here would base his romantic choice on just a "nice" girl.

 

That depends on what you mean by "just a nice girl" actually. What he described is exactly the kind of mindset I like. Granted there is more to any relationship, such as physical/mental attraction, but that is a damned fine foundation.

 

On paper.

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These women eventually get tired of the bad boy but women who went for drama in their younger years and then decide to settle on the good man they rejected are pretty much at the bottom of the barrel for women in the dating pool. By the time this happens these men have already found somebody more worthy.

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Dude, he gets girls because he goes after them. Men are the doers, just look at sex, who is doing all the work? Assertive men, no matter if they have a criminal record or they drink themselves into oblivion, will get the chicks. Women are naturally passive, the majority of women aren't gonna chase or go after dudes. He gets girls because he works for them.

 

Women like aggressive and assertive men. They don't want to do the work, they want YOU to do the work. Women don't approach men because they aren't programmed that way. Women dress up nice and doll themselves up so you approach and assert yourself towards them.

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...Cleavage and women that wear their pants tight for the wedgie-look doesn't turn me on. By the way, is that comfortable?...

 

Wish I had the answer to this burning question.

 

No idea. Sort of like a trussed-up turkey trying to walk around, would be my best guess.

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OP, you have found a potential thesis topic :)

 

IMO, I would not, other than for educational purposes, worry one whit about why your roommate scores women and you don't. You and he are on very different paths in life. Don't waste your time investigating his. I'm sure he could care less about yours.

 

Try asking older women (I'm assuming you're in your 20's) out on dates and consider dating inter-racially if you have no defined aversion to it.

 

You're not alone. There are a lot of decent, respectable young men working and bettering themselves beneath the radar of their female contemporaries. The key is to give that dynamic the weight it truly deserves in your life. When you're older, you'll understand that more clearly. Best wishes in your studies and career. Our former MC is a forensic psychologist who does MC adjunct to his court work. Fascinating guy with a mind like a steel trap. :)

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Try asking older women (I'm assuming you're in your 20's) out on dates and consider dating inter-racially if you have no defined aversion to it.

 

You're not alone. There are a lot of decent, respectable young men working and bettering themselves beneath the radar of their female contemporaries.

 

This is an area I've been working on myself. It does not really appear to matter how much of a catch you think you are if you never ask women you are interested in out. I had a problem in the past of friend-zoning myself because of that.

 

It doesn't really matter how into you a lady is if you never give her a chance to show it. Especially if that "bad boy" does.

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Agreed. We should hear from the OP about how and how often he asks women on dates. If he's not asking, that's job #1. :)

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Oh, fer Gawd's sake, he didn't refer to ALL women as "sloppy seconds." It was the concept of waiting for these skanky types who chase after convicts to finally smarten up and THEN try to get a date with them. Who would want a gal like that? It was a JOKE! :rolleyes:

 

As for the OP, come back and answer some of the questions that have been posed about your actual thread, such as do you ask women out and how.

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And no man here, you included would have laughing if a woman called a man a "pig" or "fag" and giglged about it and tried to ply it off like a joke.

 

And for the third time, this from a poster who in another thread claimed that men who prefer Asian women are geeks who live in the basement.

 

You need a healthy dose of "good for the goose, good for the gander."

 

I don't think men judge women for wanting to have sex with a bad boy. Actually, badboy/nice guy is often not a static concept. One woman's bad boy is another's nice guy, and personally, I've been on both sides. I have been at parties or out where there is one woman on one side of the room who is attracted because of my supposed bad boy qualities, and another on the other side of the room thinks I am one of the nicest guys she knows.

 

What drives men crazy is the plain fact that if you line up all the women who are bedded by the prison tatt guy and ask them what they want in a man, they will list off an impressive sounding litany of nice guy qualities, then go right out and sleep with and chase what they perceive to be the bad boys right in front of us. The "good man" sees this, and says wait a a minute, every bit of advice I've gotten about what women want must be wrong. Do I have to retailor myself into a callous, dangerous guy to attract women?

 

Then, women respond with, "it is our right to bed whomever we want, and then instantly change gears when it's time to have a family, and that's just the way it is." Men with any self-respect respond "umm, sorry thanks for playing, -I'm- not marrying into that kind of social dynamic." and resentment grows on both sides, because after all, the females then wonder "where are all the nice guys?" "Why do men choose bimbos over me, a woman of substance?"

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carhill, IMO, the majority aren't psyche students, just trolls jacking around or younger guys who aren't successful with women and are looking for a place to vent their misogyny.

 

Hopefully, that's not the case with the OP, whether psyche student, troll or misogynist.

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