hmmmmmm Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 I am hoping I won't get the "it doesn't matter, you're married" bit on here, cause I am already aware of that. The reason I am asking is because I need to know if what I am interpreting as "interest" is that, or not because it is in regards to my best friends husband. I have been very good friends with these people for almost 3 years now, we have same aged children etc. My husband often does "men" things with him alone as well as family outtings, so there is a mutual friendship there. The problem I have is he seems to be very flirtatious and possibly even interested without coming out and saying it. A few examples are this.... -when talking in a group or telling a story, he is 90% of the time looking dead into my eyes, no matter what the subject or who is involved. -he teases me all the time, mocks me, gets me to laugh no matter what -he has little nicknames for me -he will make inuendos about "sexual" issues or acts with me in front of his wife, but in the next breath say to his wife that he loves her and he would never do it. (this makes me feel like he is overcompensating) -I hear all the time from my friend that he is cranky and not kind to her, yet when he is in our company, he is having a great time. -he has numerous times started a story by saying "hey ??, listen to this, while patting me on the knee" -when we happen to be alone, it feels awkward -he will tell me I am stunning when I am feeling my worst, and when I think he is joking he says he is serious. Yet I feel that is him still joking. -the biggest thing is that with any greeting or good bye there was always a hand shake between the guys, a kiss and hug for the girls. However, after one night where he was goofing around and tried to turn his head quick when I went to give him a kiss on the cheek, we haven't greeted each other that way again since. I have heard alot of people say "many a truths, said in jest" but I am really nervous about this. He is a very "out there" personality, and I have heard him goof around with other as well, but not to this extent. I love him as a friend, but what if he wants more. I need to know or do I just shut this out of my mind. Please help cause i need to be prepared if my intuition is right? Thanks everyone, I look forward to your feedback.
DollyMix Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 Be wise and prepare yourself but act ignorant I think, that way you can't damage your friendship beyond repair, if he advances things you can rebuff him bluntly and set your boundaries. If I were you I'd try not to dwell on it too much your in control of yourself and you know nothings going to happen so let him joke just be sure to stay in control of things
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