bluestraps Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 I've been here on Loveshack posting replies and reading thru posts exactly 3 months at this point and a few things are certain. We all have regrets, made mistakes, and we think that if we only knew or did things differently we could have stopped the breakup and could have sparred ourselves from this pain we are going through. This goes for dumpers and dumpees. I know that there was a time I needed somebody to bring me hapiness for a short while, and they did. And I know they did too. Many of us are hoping to get our exes back . We are going thru NC, We are waiting, some are still in communication with the other person. We are in some cases maybe scheming, praying , begging or just plain going crazy. We must let others make mistakes... If you believe in a God or not does not matter. We have freewill it is plain to see, we can't controll others and others can't controll us. We as people should constantly grow and become better individuals. We learn from our mistakes and mature and go on. If we could get the other person to see it our way and just come back, we would not allow them to make mistakes and learn from them. In many cases maybe we are to blame for relationships failing, and it is better that we dont get what we want. We must let the other person find out if they have made a mistake by leaving us. Maybe in time they will. The point is we cant mess with the past or the future. If we could change what has happened, all the better things in the future will not come. For thoes of you who know what Presentism is, the concept that the past and future does not really exist, only the present. Then we cannot even efect either if we tried. we should not worry about the past or the future because it simply does not exist anymore We should not mess with the "space-time continum". We should have learned valuable lessons from our "Present" situation. Also we should allow the ones we love to do the same. And come back if they are wise enough to see it.
novack Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 i really liked your post, its hard to understand the situation at the time, but time does give us perspective, i hope one day we can all look back at what we HAD smile, than be happy what we currently have
LovelyDaze Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 Beautiful. And novack is also correct. When we look back at other situations that distressed us, most of us can see the point and the reasons why they happened. We are confused now because we are still hurting. It's hard to see anything through tears. In time, we will be able to wish our ex a nice life and even better, not care what they are doing and have zero desire for them to come back.
DenverBachelor Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 For thoes of you who know what Presentism is, the concept that the past and future does not really exist, only the present. Then we cannot even efect either if we tried. we should not worry about the past or the future because it simply does not exist anymore That's an interesting philosophical question but I do believe that the past and future do exist -- but with a twist. What we perceive as the past could be construed as the future if thermodynamics were to reverse and the arrow of time went backwards. I remember sitting in my 8'th grade German class during finals and since I hadn't studied a thing, I just stared at the wall and had a moment of enlightenment. I stared at the wall and realized I had already lived my life but was thrown back to that moment to relive different aspects. People always wish they could go back in time for a second chance, but imagine something you want now and never getting it in the future -- then realize perhaps you just went back into the past (present) to try harder to achieve it. Time is a river flowing in one direction (right now). I was studying this when going over "proton decay" and if it is possible or theoretical. If proton decay does exist, eventually the entire universe will essentially evaporate into a sea of quarks -- each one separated by light years. This is the cold death theory of the universe. If, however, the universe starts to collapse back, really strange **** will happen. I mean REALLY strange ****.
ItsAllGoodAgain Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 I hear you DB We take steps here in the present to shape our future. We use past transgressions to help guide these present steps. We can't predict the future but we can create circumstance. We can help shape the future.
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