Yukikazi Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 Its not what you say.. its how you say it. If you open with a high energy confident attitude, it doesn't matter if you say something dorky or slightly juvenile.. so long as its funny and makes her laugh and gets the conversation started.. that's all it is.. an opener. This one sounds rather complicated and over thought.. and the logistics makes it a pita in most locations.. but it could work if the guy has the balls and the confidence. Hell, last night I went up to a hot chick in the club easily a 9 and just asked her if she wanted to make out (this is still an opener.. though a much ballsier one and not my usual but I figured eh wtf.. see what happens) fully expecting to get smacked or told off. Instead she politely declined. I said no problem with a smile on my face still and turned to walk away when she grabed my arm and stopped me. Turned me around and showed me the ring on her finger (had I seen it before I never would have approached her) and explained she was engaged and apologized. If she hadn't been engaged.. *shrug* who knows where it may have gone. IMO, you don't explain to someone you already shot down why you shot them down unless you would have been receptive to the idea in the first place. Least that's my reasoning for why she would stop me to explain why.. cause I can't think of another reason when I was already withdrawing. Its how you say it...
Author BookerT Posted December 14, 2009 Author Posted December 14, 2009 Its not what you say.. its how you say it. If you open with a high energy confident attitude, it doesn't matter if you say something dorky or slightly juvenile.. so long as its funny and makes her laugh and gets the conversation started.. that's all it is.. an opener. This one sounds rather complicated and over thought.. and the logistics makes it a pita in most locations.. but it could work if the guy has the balls and the confidence. Hell, last night I went up to a hot chick in the club easily a 9 and just asked her if she wanted to make out (this is still an opener.. though a much ballsier one and not my usual but I figured eh wtf.. see what happens) fully expecting to get smacked or told off. Instead she politely declined. I said no problem with a smile on my face still and turned to walk away when she grabed my arm and stopped me. Turned me around and showed me the ring on her finger (had I seen it before I never would have approached her) and explained she was engaged and apologized. If she hadn't been engaged.. *shrug* who knows where it may have gone. IMO, you don't explain to someone you already shot down why you shot them down unless you would have been receptive to the idea in the first place. Least that's my reasoning for why she would stop me to explain why.. cause I can't think of another reason when I was already withdrawing. Its how you say it... Well he deliberately was trying to push the limit. He basically said to us "watch this", put the pressure on himself and did it anyway to prove a point. That's why I give him credit for it. If it wasn't an interesting proof that anything can work I wouldn't have started a thread about it.
Curious-One Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 What girl would actually accept a strangers coat from a bartender and actually wear it. I am not a girl but imo thats super lame. Than again i dont pickup girls in bars.
Author BookerT Posted December 14, 2009 Author Posted December 14, 2009 What girl would actually accept a strangers coat from a bartender and actually wear it. I am not a girl but imo thats super lame. Than again i dont pickup girls in bars. She's not meant to wear it. You don't wait till she's looking to leave to do this.
Author BookerT Posted December 14, 2009 Author Posted December 14, 2009 I would run away with the coat! lol:laugh:
EricaH329 Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 Am I the only one who finds this absolutely hilarious?? Sense of humor is definitely at the top of my list, so yes... i'd be interested in talking to someone that did that. Call me lame or whatever, but I find it extremely amusing
burning 4 revenge Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 You need to write something a little more seductive, but not over the top on the note Something like "What do you think of rimming" or "Id love to watch you squirt" Thats better than the coat line
Confusedalways Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 No, you're not the only one. I think it's hilarious too It's definitely a welcomed break from the regular bar pick ups!
InspiredbyYou Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 She's not meant to wear it. You don't wait till she's looking to leave to do this. So let me get this right, in the middle of the night a girl is up dancing and the bartender walks up to her and hands her some guy's coat and a note? Man this just get dumber and dumber by the hour. LMAO
EricaH329 Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 So let me get this right, in the middle of the night a girl is up dancing and the bartender walks up to her and hands her some guy's coat and a note? Man this just get dumber and dumber by the hour. LMAO I don't think he means that it's meant to be done when she's obviously distracted by something else... that'd just be creepy. I'm assuming this is done when she is also sitting at the bar.
Chubbi Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 Here's what me and my friends would do: If one of us had been checking the guy out, then this would be a success!! And send us to a fit of hushed giggles before he comes over to reclaim his coat. It'll bridge the gap between him and us- you know we wouldn't do it! If this guy just came out of nowhere, then it depends on his age and how good he looks. If a guy is handsome (and my friends disagree on what's handsome EVERYtime) then we'd wonder about our luck!! Good job bartender! Here's a tip) We'd be too shy to talk though so he'd have to broach the conversation. If he doesn't broach the conversation, I'm afraid to say we'd silently apologize, give back the coat and wait till he leaves before we start giggling again. If the guy is near our age, we'd be more likely to talk to him. If he is near our age and friendly, my friends would hold the conversation all night, especially if one of us thinks he could pass for cute. It surprises me sometimes how my friends hold conversations with just about any ole friendly schmuck, but since we like different things... If the guy is older like 30+ (which is usually the case for some reason with me and my group of friends) we'd think it's kinda creepy. No doubt. 30+ men hitting on 20 year olds would hit the creepy category unless the guy is handsome. Now granted my friends and I hardly ever go out to bars/parties so this pickup thing would be relatively new and fun to us
Author BookerT Posted December 14, 2009 Author Posted December 14, 2009 So let me get this right, in the middle of the night a girl is up dancing and the bartender walks up to her and hands her some guy's coat and a note? Man this just get dumber and dumber by the hour. LMAO Yeah she was sitting alone at the bar drinking by herself when all of a sudden she gets handed a coat and a note, lol. That's the point it's so friggin dumb that if any guy did it they would either crash and burn bad or get the girl laughing. I think you also need to be a good judge of character and body language. If a girl looks serious, or tired or upset then this won't work. But if she's bored and has a sense of humor then it will.
Yukikazi Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 No doubt. 30+ men hitting on 20 year olds would hit the creepy category unless the guy is handsome. Here we have another example of how not being an Adonis gets you label as creepy by girls regardless of your personality.. book by the cover.. Cause you admit its not the age.. its the looks.
b52s Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 That is the most retarded thing I have ever heard of! LOL Not only would that not work it would totally annoy me that some dweeb went through all that stupid trouble when he could have just come up to me and said "Hi I'm ____" And I agree with the person who said about touching the coat, I know my coats I would not touch a guy's jacket. LAME! LOL...come on! Saying "Hello, my name is Bill....what's your name" is so OLD....it's time men be more original than actually introducing yourself. Only losers introduce themselves in the appropriate fashion (Sarcasm here) lol
donnamaybe Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 That's just trying wayyyy too hard. I would find it off-putting. I prefer just a normal approach - not some manufactured situation.
InspiredbyYou Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 Here we have another example of how not being an Adonis gets you label as creepy.. . I was totally going to make the same observation. I hope she made a mistake there otherwise that is the dumbest thing I've ever heard. "A guy over 30 hitting on 20yr old women is creep, unless he is handsome" WTf!?!? LOL...come on! Saying "Hello, my name is Bill....what's your name" is so OLD....it's time men be more original than actually introducing yourself. Only losers introduce themselves in the appropriate fashion (Sarcasm here) lol Thank goodness you were being sarcastic for a bit there it looked like you were being serious.... It just goes to show that some men are so desperate they will jump through hoops just to get a girl's attention and she may not even deserve all that attention. Only a guy who feels he has very little self worth goes through THAT much trouble. No matter how you slice it, I still think it is a totally lame way to pick up a girl. If a guy did that to me I'd be like "what's wrong with you and why are you trying so hard. I haven't even opened my mouth yet and you are already jumping through hoops for me"!?!?
Yukikazi Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 I was totally going to make the same observation. I hope she made a mistake there otherwise that is the dumbest thing I've ever heard. "A guy over 30 hitting on 20yr old women is creep, unless he is handsome" WTf!?!? You don't find out the age untill after the "hitting on" has begun.. she is just being shallow. Hell I was hitting on girls this weekend and I know damn well they were in their 20's.. I'm in my early 30's.. can I be expected to pre determine those in my immediate age range? course not.. of all the girls I met this weekend.. I don't know a single persons age She should just admit she only wants to be hit on by "hot" guys and anyone else that has the balls to walk up and talk to her is creepy. Maybe she prefers the hot guys that are too chicken to approach. No matter how you slice it, I still think it is a totally lame way to pick up a girl. If a guy did that to me I'd be like "what's wrong with you and why are you trying so hard. I haven't even opened my mouth yet and you are already jumping through hoops for me"!?!? I sometimes like to walk up to them and ask them about breakfast cereal... gets the convo started.. and it works. You don't need some complex staging to meet a girl.. just walk up to her and say something funny.
temple Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 As far as lines go, this one isn't too bad. BUT the second someone uses any line on me, no matter how cute or unconventional, alarm bells immediately go off in my head. So I'd just stick to being yourself. There's plenty of time to be silly later
Yukikazi Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 As far as lines go, this one isn't too bad. BUT the second someone uses any line on me, no matter how cute or unconventional, alarm bells immediately go off in my head. So I'd just stick to being yourself. There's plenty of time to be silly later Technically "Hey I'm YukiKazi and I just had to come over here and say Hi" is a line.. any opener is a line.. its just a matter of degrees. Did you have problems before? you sound like you are a bit damaged if you immediately jump to alarm bells if someone comes up to you.
InspiredbyYou Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 Technically "Hey I'm YukiKazi and I just had to come over here and say Hi" is a line.. any opener is a line.. its just a matter of degrees. . I think she means some cheeseball line like "are you sore?" no why? "because it must have hurt when you fell from the sky" The OP's coat thing is as cheeseball as those stupid lines. Humor is the best, but I find situational humor is the best. Last week I was out with some girlfriends for dinner and after 10pm the place turns into a lounge and we sat at our table drinking. By the bar there was this chick who was completly smashed and she was having some sort of silly argument (not fighting just being loud) with some guys at the bar and she had the most annoying high pitched voice and she kept on screaming stuff out. Well there was a table of guys over to the right of us and one of the guys comes up to our table and leans in to me and says "let's make a bet, I say she falls flat on her ass in the next 15mins, what do you say?" pointing at the loud drunk chick. That was funny and it was for sure something that would get me talking to him, I clearly was not interested since I am taken but an opener like that will always work to get me to open up.
Yukikazi Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 I think she means some cheeseball line like "are you sore?" no why? "because it must have hurt when you fell from the sky" The OP's coat thing is as cheeseball as those stupid lines. That was funny and it was for sure something that would get me talking to him, I clearly was not interested since I am taken but an opener like that will always work to get me to open up. Oh I agree.. cheeseball lines like that are pure idiocy. But it also depends on context so some cheese could work.. Like asking a girl how good a kisser she is on a scale of 1-10.. depends on location.. you wouldn't ask that in a coffeeshop.. but in a bar or club you can get away with it so long as you got the attitude to back it up. I went up to a girl whom was talking to some limpwrist older guy.. tapped her on the shoulder to get her attention and asked her where she was on the scale.. Nothing else.. no hello or escuse me.. just tap and ask. She smiled and focused her attention on me, while saying she was a 12, totally ignoring the other guy whom immediately turned around and wandered off. We chatted for about 10 minutes before it was time to switch bars.. If you were to use that line but being hesitant and unsure.. you're gonna come off as creepy and your line will go down in flames.. But you ask that with confidence and humor and high energy and they respond positivly. Cheese will work if you can serve it on a silver platter..
temple Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 Technically "Hey I'm YukiKazi and I just had to come over here and say Hi" is a line.. any opener is a line.. its just a matter of degrees. Did you have problems before? you sound like you are a bit damaged if you immediately jump to alarm bells if someone comes up to you. Damaged... you might have a different opinion to me but resorting to insults isn't a particularly pleasant way of talking to people.
Yukikazi Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 Damaged... you might have a different opinion to me but resorting to insults isn't a particularly pleasant way of talking to people. I made an observation.. not an insult. There is a difference between "you sound like you are damaged" vs "you are damaged" The first is an observation based on your posts.. The second would be an insult if that had been what i actually said... Which is was not.
temple Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 Thanks for the grammar lesson. You sound like you're a nit-picking idiot. Just an observation.
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