CBIIS1 Posted December 13, 2009 Posted December 13, 2009 She said she didn't love me anymore and shorthly after leaving there was another man who she had mentionned in the past. He seems to have disappeared. I moved on to someone new and its killing her. The kids want to stay with me. Why is she so damn mean and bitter with me? How long does it last? I think she knows she messed up but she'll never admit it. Why doesn't she let go of me and her anger after all I didn't leave or take up with someone else?
soheartbroken Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 She said she didn't love me anymore and shorthly after leaving there was another man who she had mentionned in the past. He seems to have disappeared. I moved on to someone new and its killing her. The kids want to stay with me. Why is she so damn mean and bitter with me? How long does it last? I think she knows she messed up but she'll never admit it. Why doesn't she let go of me and her anger after all I didn't leave or take up with someone else? I'm sorry that there was someone else involved on her end, but it sounds like you have the "upper hand" now, in that you are more emotionally detached. I don't remember reading your story. What were her reasons for leaving in the first place/
Author CBIIS1 Posted December 14, 2009 Author Posted December 14, 2009 (edited) She left me because I got sick. I had severe anxiety problems and became depressed and extremely fussy as a result. It took years to get the proper treatment but I finally did. She was the one making me sick. After I got better, her nagging and bitching stopped fazing me. I simply stopped jumping to her every command and I didn't stress over anything she said or at her reactions (pouting, silence etc.). She couldn't deal with the new me, she refused to acknowledge that I was better. She said she was no longer in love with me after 26 years with me, that I was manipulative and controlling, ok then. In the court papers she complained of having to look her best for me at all times, of my going to bed too late for her and sleeping in on my days off, of keeping her away from her friends and family (baloney). She would come home from work, the house was clean, the laundry done, supper on the table, oil backrubs every second night, I even did her hair color and I held a high paying full time job to boot. She kept telling me I needed a younger woman so I got one a month after she left. She's a widow and she's not broke or ugly. My wife was having a midlife crisis, menopause thing by the looks of it. She's alienated her kids, lost her husband to a younger filly with plenty of toys (2 trucks, 1 car, 1 new snomachine, 1 rhino, 1 800 Bomb ATV, boat, backhoe you name it she has it) . She's losing weight and getting a boob job just like her deceased husband had asked. I lucked out. Karma maybe. My new woman loves me to death, and has no issues with me (trust me I ask every day).My ex's life is turning into hell. I feel for her. I don't even want to hate her anymore cause that would be a waste of my time. My kids think she's nuts and avoid her. We were a happy family, no fighting, no nothing, not that long ago. Its all so strange but hey, this mess was her idea and she was desperate. The damage has been done and there's no turning back,IMO. It would be insane to even consider her back. I have no idea how we could look each other in the eyes and trust each other. She has done things I never thought possible of her. She has truly scrapped the bottom of the barrel, shamefull. The kids have seen it all too. What's gotten into her? I don't know this person. Even her best friend, her mentor, has started to back off. I won't pick up the phone to talk to her, I avoid her at all cost. I just wish she'd find herself another planet, she's 4 foot ten scary. Edited December 14, 2009 by CBIIS1
Gunny376 Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 Having been in only two LTR's you probally haven't experienced this ~ but if you ever had a woman stare at you such as while sitting in a coffee shop without saying anything? She's either stricked with you, or she's thinking "Damn! I had a good man, but I went and screwed it up, and now I'm stuck with thiis SOB. More than likely the anger and bitterness that she's showing you is the anger and bitterness that she's got toward herself. Find a good woman (and for women finding a good man) is a lot like finding a good job, (especiially in this economy! BTW did you hear? The recession is over ~ or so says Washington) There out there? But what good ones there are? Folks that have them have had them a good long while. They plan on keeping them and your going to have to fight them if not kill them to get them away from them. Once in a good while one will pop up but they want stay on the market for very long. Just like a really good job. I wouldn't worry about the XHEX, she made her bed hard to sleep in ~ so I would let her sleep in it.
Author CBIIS1 Posted December 14, 2009 Author Posted December 14, 2009 Thank you Gunny, your words are soothing. I want to know that she is going to regret what she's done. I'm done blaiming myself. She goes around looking like miss goody two shoes all the time. The kids and I know who she really is and I hope her family and friends figure it out soon too. I just want justice. She's gone around the community smearing my name to just about everyone including my girlfriend's (the widow) ex in-laws and the girlfriend's sister in hopes of screwing up my relationship. There is nothing she hasn't tried. I'm seeing things about her that just blow me away. She's even chumming with my brother and his wife, "the ******* and the stuck-up bitch" as she used to call them.
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