b52s Posted December 13, 2009 Posted December 13, 2009 I know this one girl....apparently she dated this guy for about a year.....apparently, he was SO much help through her post-divorce situation....it justified dating him. I asked them why they called it off, and her response was that he helped her out so much through her divorce and had been supportive...even her own parents loved him to death for supporting her own daughter. But, apparently she was still hung up on her ex....that he got tired of it and called it off. Basically he was a rebound guy? But sounds like she was doing him a favor by being his girlfriend during her post divorce situation?? Then she said this: "yeah, i've had a really hard time since my divorce, can't get out of this depression, i count on these guys for my happiness"
harmfulsweetz Posted December 13, 2009 Posted December 13, 2009 Maybe she's codependent? I don't know, sounds like it. Sounds like she uses these guys as a quick fix for the hurt she is feeling, a distraction, when really, until she gets to the bottom of the problem, she ain't ever going to be happy. She needs to spend time being with herself, and working on herself and her depression, it's not right to bring others into that to fill a void.
You'reasian Posted December 13, 2009 Posted December 13, 2009 I know this one girl....apparently she dated this guy for about a year.....apparently, he was SO much help through her post-divorce situation....it justified dating him. I asked them why they called it off, and her response was that he helped her out so much through her divorce and had been supportive...even her own parents loved him to death for supporting her own daughter. But, apparently she was still hung up on her ex....that he got tired of it and called it off. Basically he was a rebound guy? But sounds like she was doing him a favor by being his girlfriend during her post divorce situation?? Then she said this: "yeah, i've had a really hard time since my divorce, can't get out of this depression, i count on these guys for my happiness" People need time to heal after their divorces. Its important to know some general background about someone's relationship history, where they've been and where they want to go. If someone's relatively fresh from a long-term relationship, its probably best to approach with caution - stay friends.
Author b52s Posted December 13, 2009 Author Posted December 13, 2009 People need time to heal after their divorces. Its important to know some general background about someone's relationship history, where they've been and where they want to go. If someone's relatively fresh from a long-term relationship, its probably best to approach with caution - stay friends. Funny, this guy she dated after her divorce, was "friends" with her 10 years prior to dating him.
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