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LostLamb Established Member

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Something awful has happened. I was on a forum that i've been a member of for years and said something in passing about my last relationship. Today I logged into the site and found a message from ex (who had new partner from a month after our split) who told me to stop mentioning him and listed the reasons he dumped me!

I didn't even know he was looking at the site (he wasn't a member when we were together) and feel so angry I could scream. No contact for a year then this vile missive? What does it mean? I didn't mention an ex partner by name or other details so why has he sent two pages of crap? He won-he has his health , new fab relationship and should be ashamed for logging in and sending me such messages. He told me to never contact him again a YEAR ago and I didn't.

 

I am close to exploding.

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teanoranges Established Member

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I'd just continue on as if you didn't even receive the message.

What a jerk.

twinklecat Established Member

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I agree, just ignore it, what a complete douche!

nobmagnet Established Member

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what a complete pratt. carry on. ignore it and guess what?I bet he was looking because his relationship aint all that!

 

xx

DustySaltus Established Member

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My ex hacked into an online dating account that I had and offered her personal critique of every single woman I dated.

 

I agree, he's looking because his current fling isn't all that.

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Something awful has happened. I was on a forum that i've been a member of for years and said something in passing about my last relationship. Today I logged into the site and found a message from ex (who had new partner from a month after our split) who told me to stop mentioning him and listed the reasons he dumped me!

I didn't even know he was looking at the site (he wasn't a member when we were together) and feel so angry I could scream. No contact for a year then this vile missive? What does it mean? I didn't mention an ex partner by name or other details so why has he sent two pages of crap? He won-he has his health , new fab relationship and should be ashamed for logging in and sending me such messages. He told me to never contact him again a YEAR ago and I didn't.

 

I am close to exploding.

 

Look at me, I was dumb enough to put my name and bdate in my userName (soon after the breakup, was in a daze, you all understand, right? ;)

 

I would not care (anymore) if the ex saw my posts. They mostly detail that I loved her a great deal and it was hard getting over her. If that is an ego boost to her, fine. For me, it is just a diary of a period of my life, one that I know I grew from.

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Look at me, I was dumb enough to put my name and bdate in my userName (soon after the breakup, was in a daze, you all understand, right? ;)

 

I would not care (anymore) if the ex saw my posts. They mostly detail that I loved her a great deal and it was hard getting over her. If that is an ego boost to her, fine. For me, it is just a diary of a period of my life, one that I know I grew from.

 

 

Yea, I'm almost 100% positive that my ex would have a pretty good idea it was me based on my username and location...and the general content of my posts...but like Sean, I don't think I'd care either way if she read them or not...I think at this point it's been long enough that she's well past our relationship and that time in her life...even if I'm not, it doesn't really matter to me...I learned that we all go at our own pace...as long as I don't bother her, she has no reason to be upset...

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I know my ex-fiancee would recognize my username if she ever finds these forums. She knows that "madrugada" is my favorite word in Spanish, and I chose it because of its double meaning. (I can't explain it, I just like words.)

 

Literally, it means dawn, or break of day. But it could also mean middle of the night, which is where I am now and have been for a while. But break of day is just around the corner.

 

We have to keep telling ourselves that.

 

As far as her reading my posts, well, I wouldn't mind.

 

LostLamb, it sounds like you've gotten over this guy. If not, I hope his actions have proven to you why you're better off without him.

 

Sounds like a douchebag to me.

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I'm sat here crying and unable to sleep. How could he claim I was talking about his family? Why claim to check on me just this once yet on sunday he said he'd seen me on other sites? Why claim he was angry i'd mentioned his dad yet send TWO , long detailed messages about why he left even mentioning our sex life?

 

I've had the year from hell including family death , my health is up and down and I needed hospital tests last week, he was my ONLY friend and i've not dated since him. He won and then sends such an awful message. I don't get it. I hugged him as we said good bye , he told me not to contact him again. I never did. No phone calls , no texts -nothing. He tells ME to stop talking other the net about this? He started it ,not me

 

He has a good job , nice car , friends , fiance (he met her within weeks of dumping me) , family , good qualifications-he has everything. Why kick me?

 

He sent this after I replied as I couldn't ignore the lies he'd written-

 

I always did have an *** account - how arrogant of you to think that it's YOUR site... how else do I keep abreast of car insurance matters etc? You even read my posts to that guy who got banned but I won't be reading your posts any further - I was curious to see what you had been saying, especially after you brought my DEAD FATHER up in posts on the internet.

 

It would be healthier if we just left each other alone for good now - no more tripe all over the internet. Whilst you may think it your right to post whatever on the internet, posting about you & our relationship & any dead relatives is something I never did, not once.

 

Take care,

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I know I hurt him by leading such ridivulous life and being depressed but am I really this worthless? Why so much anger for me a year later when he's so happy and i'm still trying to figure my life out? How can he say he is glad his father died knowing I was out of his life for good? How can the dumper be angry? They don't have the right! I don't care what others think - you rip my heart out and leave me then the anger is all mine (unless someone was abusive), it's awful coming back a year later writing crap about what happened.

If my fiance did that to his ex i'd be wondering why

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