1cowbell Posted December 13, 2009 Posted December 13, 2009 My girlfriend and I have been having some communication problems for some time. She is one that will ignore me or walk out if I want to talk about something. She has told me 2 over the last month and a half that she is "finnished" She went for a month to spend time with a family member (that i am not crazy about) to "get away from me and back home", but i get text from she saying I love you and miss you. Whai is going on???? with this. Im not one to have a full blown text conversation and if I call she won't answer. I have been very patient with her immaturity and poor communication skills for a loooooong time. I am at my wits end. She has some good qualities that I like but I will tell her without communication you dont have truse. Am I beating a dead horse?????
sugarmomma Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 She ended it with you? I know hwo frustrating it can be trying to relate to an immature person with poor communication skills. Just ended it with a 43 year old that acts like a 12 yo. I would say just let her come back and if she does be clear about what your boundaries are with her and if she crosses them again you may need to make a decision.
blackbear_703 Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 I understand your situation all too well 1cowbell. Almost a month ago, my own g/f ended it with me but keeps sending these "Miss you/love you" e-mails and refusing to let me have NC. The whole push-pull thing can be very frustrating indeed.... Like the other posters said, I would definitely have a talk with her about her communication skills. If she'll talk with you about this, I'd take it from there. Good luck and hope everything works out.
Jackie-Jhonson Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 It looks like she doesn't really want you, why won't you try to move on?
HLP234 Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 She doesn't know what she wants. Its a stupid game I'm playing right now too. She won't want to talk about the relationship or anything, just wants me to treat her like before and not have a worry at all about our "break." At one point if you just keep trying and she still won't communicate you will have to tell her straight up. It may be hard but I know I'm almost to the point where I can't deal with this stupid time game anymore. You may regret what you say later but it will be for the good of you. Just be calm and collected when you tell her.
Author 1cowbell Posted December 14, 2009 Author Posted December 14, 2009 Thanks all for all your input. I have talked to her in the past about improving our communication and I didn't single her out as the problen. Everything I talked about I phrased with "we" "our" or "us". I told her that "I am not perfect and will work on better communication but I need to know how to say things so you (her) would understand me beter" didn't get much in return from her. I know she will be back and when she is I have to lay down the law, but it is going to be hard because I am not a fighter and she will give me that attitude. I cant cave in.
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