bitteorca Posted December 13, 2009 Posted December 13, 2009 Hi everyone, I haven't posted for a long time, I split up with my ex about 6 months ago I believe, but no one's counting I've been getting on OK I think. Obviously still thinking about her, but less and less with every day. What has got me at the moment is that I have found out that she is going out with her ex boyfriend. The person she was briefly with before she was with me. This really gets me more than I thought it would. If she had just a boyfriend, I think i'd be 95% fine with it, its just that its her ex: was she thinking about him for that 3.5years we were together?! Has she always fancied him when he was out when she was?! He also kind of didn't treat her the best. He's a good looking/popular guy (greatttt haha) and I think he basically slept with her, didn't take it all that seriously, then bailed. I don't understand why she's doing it again, but this is exactly the point - who cares?! I don't know her anymore! I don't know him! I know all this but I still feel all this just kind of taints the relationship we had. But another side of me knows that that is pretty stupid, and here is why: I'm basically a hypocrite because I'm dating my ex ha. I know after me saying the above you may find that strange, but that's what puts me in two minds. I wasn't thinking about my ex (the one I'm dating now) when I was with 3.5years ex. At all. Didn't even consider her really, forgot about her. And the rational part of me is pretty sure she wouldn't have been thinking of him when she was with me. she wasn't like that, she was totally in to me, not to be a d**k! I think a lot of it is self-confidence with me There's a lot of 'is he better than me?' kind of thoughts racing through my head. Possibly pretty common with these types of things I'm not sure? Also, I know she's been out and had more fun than me whilst we've been broke up. Not that its a competition, but still. I have met girls, but they're never the right girls, and its never gone anywhere, and that is starting to hack me off a bit...I just want a nice gf now. I don't know whether dating my ex will go anywhere, I'm not sure. She seemed really keen at first, but I get the feeling she has gone off the boil or something. But its probably just me being a needy idiot...maybe it correlates with finding out about my (3.5years)ex. She still texts me, and we're going out on wed lol I dunno, probably warrants another post. I was just seeing whether anyone has any specific advice/anecdotes about when your ex goes back out with an ex they were with before you? Its never nice finding out about your ex with someone else, never mind one of their ex's Thanks for listening!
mickleb Posted December 13, 2009 Posted December 13, 2009 Ew. Sorry but it all sounds a bit icky to me. You, her, her ex, your ex. Ugh.Lleave each other be and move forward and away from the emotional quicksand you all thought you were out of! x
Author bitteorca Posted December 13, 2009 Author Posted December 13, 2009 We are leaving each other be, we haven't been in contact for a long time, only recently. I agree that it is icky, maybe that's what depresses me more about it. As it if it wasn't icky enough
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