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I met this guy online a month ago. My impression was he is a nice guy and i dont mind to see him again. I am not in a hurry to get into relationship until i get to know the person better.

 

Soon after we met, he sent a text message " hi xxx, i am happy to meet you, u r a very charming girl, hope to see u again soon ". So i politely said thank u for the compliment & said good night. The next few days he said that he was craving for me & he has a very good impression of me, he felt connected and easy to communicate, etc. It is nice to hear but well... i dont know him enough so i chose to ignore his compliment.

 

Since then we text now n then and he hinted few times about meet up, lunch, etc, but every time i asked when to meet up again, he never gave me a clear answer.

So i got an impression that he is not interested and i just moved on .

 

I didnt hear anything from him for 2 weeks then i heard from him again and asked me how i am doing. He said he has been thinking about me a lot . i was like ???? if you did, u would have tried to contact me or did something.

So i just ignored him. after 1 - 2 days he texted me again " hi xxx, how r u ? i accepted the fact that you are not interested. The irony is i met many gals and they are interested and I am not. But with you is the opposite. "

 

so i texted him back and told him that i got the impression that he was not interested. He said he was shocked that i didnt know that he likes me and he was suprised to know the fact that i wanted to meet him again.

he said that we should meet up again. So we set a day, and on that day, he was MIA. So, i just said to my self " F*ck it .. i am not going to bother anymore".

after 3 days he texted me saying" xxx, i owe u an apology and

i will explain to u why i appear reluctant. I never had a relationship with a girl online and it is kind strange feeling for me. It seemed it snowballed in my mind . I wish i meet u in normal way and it would be easier for me. u r a great girl, clever, attractive, i am sorry for being such a jerk"

so i said politely, " i appreciate u explained things to me. I understand ur point and you should not force your self to like other people. Follow your heart and gut feeling. Everyone is stranger until you know them. Meeting someone from internet is not always bad as long as u r careful. It is better than picking up from a bar. even though not all people in bar are bad. Having said that, follow your heart, even if it means not seeing me . Dont worry".

he replied " thank u for ur understanding. What u said is very sensible and i was right about you. it is easy to find a sex partner but genuine and sincere partner is not easy to find "

well.. since he stood me up , so i thought just let it go.

and then he texted me one night said that he thought of me a lot. I just dont get it .. what does he want ?

he said he felt he has been stupid to let the fact he met me online to be a barrier for him. So he asked to meet up again for a dinner.

So we met for a dinner and he said he was glad to meet me again. We set a movie date together today. Last night he told me he had food poisoning. Today he text-ed me canceling the movie. honestly, i dont really believe after he stood me up once.

what i am thinking is y bother me all the time, saying he likes me, and thought of me ??? is he just another jerk?

y dont just leave me alone..??

what is going on? any body can explain to me? if he doesnt like me , then leave me alone.

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His head is so far up his.

 

Tell him you don't want to hear from him anymore because he's inconsistent. Follow through on this.

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Here's my suggestion:

 

Block this guy from your phone. He's done.

 

Next online (or real life) guy who starts with texting, tell him to use the audio function of his phone and call you to ask you out on a date. After that, black hole until you hear his voice.

 

These guys are addicted to electrons. Find better men. They exist :)

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He is either very confused and indecisive, or he is playing games. Food poisoning knocks you off your feet and you stay that way for a couple weeks, it's serious stuff - whether he is telling the truth or not is for you to decide.

 

It wouldn't hurt to look at other prospects in the mean time. He may not be a jerk, but he is doing jerk things. Just depends with how much you want to put up with before you move on.

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