LovelyDaze Posted December 13, 2009 Posted December 13, 2009 Some of you know that my engaged ex is leaving for Afghanistan in January 2010. He went on a rant at our job saying that he can't wait to go because he doesn't want to worry about his new fiancee' cheating on him while he is away. Also, he said he dumped an ex GF (before my time) so he wouldn't have to worry about her infidelity. He actually WANTS to go to Afghanistan again! My new question though is: Why do you think he becomes engaged to girls he says he can't trust? And leaves a girl (me) that he says he CAN trust? BTW: He STILL asks if we can hang out. I am not that dumb anymore.
You'reasian Posted December 13, 2009 Posted December 13, 2009 Some of you know that my engaged ex is leaving for Afghanistan in January 2010. He went on a rant at our job saying that he can't wait to go because he doesn't want to worry about his new fiancee' cheating on him while he is away. Also, he said he dumped an ex GF (before my time) so he wouldn't have to worry about her infidelity. He actually WANTS to go to Afghanistan again! My new question though is: Why do you think he becomes engaged to girls he says he can't trust? And leaves a girl (me) that he says he CAN trust? BTW: He STILL asks if we can hang out. I am not that dumb anymore. Sounds like he enjoys his job, is focused and is absorbed in it. Kudos for him serving and doing things that most don't want to do. Lots of fellas want to go out of country, because they serve with a tight knit group of guys and love their job. Our answers are speculation. Hate to be the broken record here, but go see him face to face and talk to him about this issue - meet him at a coffee shop, restaraunt whatever but hash this thing out. Best of luck to you and we're thankful for your ex's service
Author LovelyDaze Posted December 13, 2009 Author Posted December 13, 2009 We've already done that bit in a restaurant. Look, here's the thing: My ex lamented how much he loves and misses me and I basically said, "Um..okay. If you love and miss me then what are you going to do about your engagement?" His response? "I don't know. I know it's not going to last anyway. I'll just see how it goes." Yes, I'm proud of US troops too but what I want to know is what people think of someone who says verbatim: "I can't wait to go back to the desert so I don't have to deal with my fiancee' f*cking around on me." His words.
sally4sara Posted December 13, 2009 Posted December 13, 2009 You can polish anything with a light enough touch. I think he is projecting. He is the one with infidelity issues as it sounds like he was cheating on his fiancee with you. Maybe she cheated too, but maybe he is just lying about that to get women like yourself to go along with being a side piece. Folks who cheat worry the more about getting cheated on than those who are content in their relationship. He is the one cheating and getting tired of dealing with the effing around, so leaving the country solves it for him. He won't be seeing either of you. Problem solved for everyone. You can thank him for THAT service too.
HeavenOrHell Posted December 13, 2009 Posted December 13, 2009 You can't polish a turd, but you can roll it in glitter.
Author LovelyDaze Posted December 14, 2009 Author Posted December 14, 2009 You can polish anything with a light enough touch. I think he is projecting. He is the one with infidelity issues as it sounds like he was cheating on his fiancee with you. Maybe she cheated too, but maybe he is just lying about that to get women like yourself to go along with being a side piece. Folks who cheat worry the more about getting cheated on than those who are content in their relationship. He is the one cheating and getting tired of dealing with the effing around, so leaving the country solves it for him. He won't be seeing either of you. Problem solved for everyone. You can thank him for THAT service too. Sounds perfectly like what I thought. He can escape it all. The smothering fiancee' and sappy me. He doesn't have to face any of the consequences of his recent shenanigans. But he STILL has to come back in January of 2011 to the fiancee' unless he is lucky enough to get his wish that she will just move on with whomever else. BTW HeavenorHell...LOL!
threebyfate Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 Not every substance on Earth can shine. You can envelope excrement in a shiny container but when you open up the container, it's still poo. Time to stop obsessing about the ex and his fiancee. What he does and says with/in his life, is his business. Be glad you escaped this man. I mean that sincerely.
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