HeyThere Posted December 13, 2009 Posted December 13, 2009 Being an open forum, there is very little in the way of protocol and/or processing happening here. As new member I spend the majority of time in this category, so therefore I’m starting a thread here. Yesterday I just finished reading a very drawn out scenario where both parties (in my opinion) had checked out a long time ago. The OP went on how they wanted advice but, went to great lengths to explain how the advice was not fitting for one reason or another. The posters that chimed in became aware of the fragility and the quixotic nature of the OP. The energy and efforts put into this thread were impressive and extensive. I felt drained and that there must be a better way. Which begs the question: should this forum have some form of processing? Would it not serve a better purpose to ask questions for a day, three days (whatever) and then offer solutions? With such sensitive subject matters, there should be some tweaking of the methods to achieve some resolutions.
luvstarved Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 As you say, it is an open forum...of the caveat emptor nature. It is not a group counseling session. Anyone who comes on here to post their issues needs to do so with the understanding that they are seeking input from a wide variety of people with a wide variety of viewpoints. Confusion is pretty much a given with posters, myself included. That's largely why we post. When I post, I am just casting a net...hoping to hear from people who have experienced similar, or felt similar...and looking for some nugget of wisdom to emerge that will help me understand my own situation and ideally, how to proceed in it. There are definitely responses that are knee-jerk and consistent and not very thoughtful. He's cheating! She's a bitch! It is up to the poster to weed these out and hone in on what is really helpful and useful and rational. I don't think a "process" would change any of that...but there is certainly nothing to prevent a responder from seeking more information before giving an opinion...
Mr-T Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 As you say, it is an open forum...of the caveat emptor nature. It is not a group counseling session. Anyone who comes on here to post their issues needs to do so with the understanding that they are seeking input from a wide variety of people with a wide variety of viewpoints. Confusion is pretty much a given with posters, myself included. That's largely why we post. When I post, I am just casting a net...hoping to hear from people who have experienced similar, or felt similar...and looking for some nugget of wisdom to emerge that will help me understand my own situation and ideally, how to proceed in it. There are definitely responses that are knee-jerk and consistent and not very thoughtful. He's cheating! She's a bitch! It is up to the poster to weed these out and hone in on what is really helpful and useful and rational. I don't think a "process" would change any of that...but there is certainly nothing to prevent a responder from seeking more information before giving an opinion... Good post, I agree with that!
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