Miko Posted December 13, 2009 Posted December 13, 2009 Guys, am I the only one who's turned off by a woman that's 'over dressed'? Things like, a $200 hairdo that obviously takes an hour to do every day, big giant flashy jewelry on every limb and appendage, knee high hooker boots, plentiful and perfect makeup and a Louis Vuitton purse etc. You'll see a lot of that at the 'clubs' and the fancier shopping malls mostly. Seriously though, while a lot of them may be good looking women, doesn't this particular 'style' immediately make you think shallow, dumb, ditsy and generally unattractive personality wise? I mean, why are you wearing all that crap? I'm a guy and I like getting dressed up to go certain places, rock concerts mainly, but if I put on 1 too many pieces of jewelry I feel like an idiot.
temple Posted December 13, 2009 Posted December 13, 2009 I guess they'll attract guys who feel similarly about dressing up. Some people prefer that. Maybe they feel good dressing/looking like that. When they get themselves ready in the morning, I think the last thing going through their mind is "will that mall guy in the tee and jeans like me in this hot little number?"
Author Miko Posted December 13, 2009 Author Posted December 13, 2009 I understand what you mean Temple. This girl at work always complains that guys never talk to her when she goes out and I think it's partly because she's sooo friggin dolled up that she just exudes 'shallow'. Guys always talk to her friends who aren't quite as cute and don't usually get so 'done up'. She's a gorgeous girl and she has a good personality but it looks like she's trying to hard. As thick as most of us men are to 'reading people' this is something that I think we actually DO pick up on. I'm not saying that it's 'wrong' or anything for them to dress like that since I'm no judge & jury but the other day at the mall I swear ALL the naturally attractive women were just totally over the top dress-wise. I just figured I would put it out there in hopes that a bunch of guys would agree and maybe we could let these women know that if you do want to get approached by guys it may do more harm than good to look like you robbed Tiffany & Co and blew your rent money at the MAC makeup store. C'mon Guys! Let's tell these girls they're beautiful without all that crap.
meerkat stew Posted December 13, 2009 Posted December 13, 2009 There's a difference between being well turned out and displaying an obvious addiction to luxury. In my experience, $200/month is actually on the low side of average for what many women spend on hair alone. Have dated several women who spend $500+/mo on hair and even brag about it. Others have $10,000 worth of shoes in their closet. Surprise surprise, they turn out to be incredibly materialistic in every other way, and these types always have an eye out to upgrade, even if you make a high income, they are always looking for bigger fish. So yes, a certain level of luxury display is a huge turnoff. For guys looking for a trophy and to buy a woman, I imagine it's a turn-on though.
Author Miko Posted December 13, 2009 Author Posted December 13, 2009 Meerkat, I think you found the word I was looking for...luxury addicts. How widespread is this really? I don't mind a girl covered in cheap jewelry, in fact I think it's kind of cute on some girls, like rocker chicks for example, but sometimes it's just obvious that they don't care what they 'look' like visually, they just feel the need to look like a movie star or maybe to make other women jealous which is lame. I guess you could compare it to guys and fancy sports cars, which I was guilty of in my teens and early 20's but these days i'm almost self conscious having too nice of a car, now I just want a 'regular' car. I don't need the attention. I guess I'm not as superficial as I used to be and maybe I'm actually 'anti-flashy' because of it.
meerkat stew Posted December 13, 2009 Posted December 13, 2009 It's highly geography/culture dependent. Obviously, you aren't gonna see the same level of luxury addiction everywhere. Also, it's unfair to expect women to look good, and not spend -some- money on their appearance, so it may take time to be sure. For example, a woman I dated a couple years ago showed signs of being really materialistic, what cinched it for me was when it came out that she won't use soap unless it costs $10-15 per bar and when she turned her nose up at a $20 bottle of wine that was highly rated, wouldn't even taste it, as if her palate was somehow offended at the cost of the wine. I didn't get out of that R fast enough, wasted ten months, but the very next woman I dated would start sulking, plainly obviously, if I hadn't taken her to a $200 meal every week. We had been out two times that week, but her complaint was "I haven't been out all week." Translated as "you haven't spent enough money this week." Having learned, I got out of that one fast in under three months. The mistake guys make, I think, is having a too forgiving attitude about this trait once it comes out for sure. Some guys take pride in being able to keep up an expensive girlfriend, what a trap that is.
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