whysohard Posted December 13, 2009 Posted December 13, 2009 hi, i am in my late 20s divorced no kids, do woman find it funny/akward going out with a man that has been divorced? i just dont know what young women think nowadays....
temple Posted December 13, 2009 Posted December 13, 2009 No, that wouldn't bother me at all. I'm 24 and I know that from this age up, most people will have had at least one long term relationship. Actually I'd be much more cautious of people who have only had casual flings.
tami-chan Posted December 13, 2009 Posted December 13, 2009 I don't see why....they probably would want to know the reason for the divorce...but considering that more than 50% of marriages end in divorce in this country..many men(and women for that matter) in their 30's or 40's are divorced....so the pool is quite limited if anyone is looking for someone who has not been married at all....
paddington bear Posted December 13, 2009 Posted December 13, 2009 "young people"???? You are in your late 20's - you are still young!!! And no, wouldn't bother me - unless there are ongoing unresolved issues with ex. Ex must be just that, an ex.
threebyfate Posted December 13, 2009 Posted December 13, 2009 What are the demographics you're trying to appeal to? For example, I'm a 34 year old divorcee who recently married a 37 year old divorced man. So, no, it doesn't bother me. We met very, very late last year. But if you're targeting early twenties women who have never been married, they might have an issue with your divorce.
Confusedalways Posted December 13, 2009 Posted December 13, 2009 I'm in my young 20's and I must say I would proceed with caution. Wouldn't necessary scare me away but I would probably be on high alert at least for a little while, particularly depending on the situation.
meerkat stew Posted December 13, 2009 Posted December 13, 2009 The older you get, the less stigma for men is associated with divorce and more stigma from having never married. But it is manageable either way with some humor. "It worries me that you are divorced. "Well at least I'm willing to try again and know what mistakes to avoid!" "It worries me that you have never married." "Yes, that's true, I've never failed at marriage..."
tami-chan Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 "It worries me that you have never married." "Yes, that's true, I've never failed at marriage..." or.....that nobody thought you are worthy enough to take that great of a risk...?
D-Lish Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 I'm divorced, no kids- so I would have no issue dating a divorced man . I just wouldn't get involved with a man with children- I've done that before and it wasn't for me. I'd also want to make sure he had resolved his issues regarding the divorce.
bean1 Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 I'm not single so I'm not looking, but when I was, I was turned off by divorced men who always complained about their ex-wives. IMO, there are lessons to be learned in a divorce and nobody (who is stable) wants to hear complaining about the ex. If you are divorced and mature about it (ie. learned things and moved on), then I think a mature woman would be very understanding!
meerkat stew Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 or.....that nobody thought you are worthy enough to take that great of a risk...? Is that supposed to be mean? I take back the compliment I gave you on your lovely mouth How about, "well I asked 30 women to marry over the years, but none of them said yes!" EDIT: OP, bean makes a great point, it's really not a topic for conversation on early dates. Avoid it and talk about light things or flirt.
tami-chan Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 Is that supposed to be mean? I take back the compliment I gave you on your lovely mouth How about, "well I asked 30 women to marry over the years, but none of them said yes!" EDIT: OP, bean makes a great point, it's really not a topic for conversation on early dates. Avoid it and talk about light things or flirt. No, not mean...wasn't the statement you posted a generic YOU....so no, it was not for you, YOU....but for you , like whoever..... But I apologize. PS: you can't "un-compliment" me about my mouth....LOL...that's not how it goes...sorry!
tami-chan Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 I'm not single so I'm not looking, but when I was, I was turned off by divorced men who always complained about their ex-wives. IMO, there are lessons to be learned in a divorce and nobody (who is stable) wants to hear complaining about the ex. If you are divorced and mature about it (ie. learned things and moved on), then I think a mature woman would be very understanding! ahhh,,,you are right. There is nothing more annoying than a man complaining, nay, b*tching about his ex-wife....I mean, like, dude, seriously, stop.
Pizzaman81 Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 No, not mean...wasn't the statement you posted a generic YOU....so no, it was not for you, YOU....but for you , like whoever..... But I apologize. PS: you can't "un-compliment" me about my mouth....LOL...that's not how it goes...sorry! Nice teeth! They are straight!
threebyfate Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 It's bad form to constantly complain about any exes, while on a date or in a relationship. It points to unresolved issues. But I disagree that you should avoid the topic. The more upfront you are at the beginning, the less likely you're going to get disillusionment, as you progress. It's not fairplay, when you wait for investment, then drop an big H-bomb on someone. I sincerely hate that, when it happens.
meerkat stew Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 Nice teeth! They are straight! She put that avatar up just to incite men in the japanese woman thread to love asian women more and make the american women angry... vixen Of course you should disclose that you are divorced early on, but there's no need to go any further into detail (unless you are recently divorced, that is pertinent) on very early dates until you see a relationship forming IMO.
dark1san Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 OP, I was in your situation, just trying to find someone to date after my divorce, it was hard at first, but now I'm engaged again, she was cool with it, she just made me promise her I was not lying about being divorced because she had dated a guy for a year who led her on and she moved back home for him to only find out he wasn't divorced but still married. She gave up a good teaching job for this man, so just be honest to whoever you date up front and just ensure them that there is no lies.
SoulSearch_CO Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 I'm 2 months shy of 30 and once-divorced. No, I don't have a problem dating a divorced guy. I didn't have a problem when I was 22, either, dating a 25-y/o divorced man. Come to think of it, out of the 4 guys that I've dated seriously - only one did not have a failed marriage under his belt. I think a lot of it has to do with the reasons for the divorce and if the man has come to terms with the reasons for the failure and if he actually LEARNED anything (biggie, there).
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