Spening the festive period alone

[whysohard]

hi guys,

 

it's been 3months since the breakup and it's still kind of fresh, i am thinking of going to this remote place in the mountains (a friend's place and he agreed) and hide there by myself over the christmas period. i dont want to stay in the house as it reminds of her and the things we usually do this time of year.

 

what do you guys think, this is the first time i am spending christmas by myself and not sure what else to do? any advice please?

[torranceshipman]

Getting away might be a really nice idea. But also, hanging around and making fresh memories might also be a strong way forward (e.g. tell a number of close friends that this is your intention, organize some really cool friends get together's over Christmas...might be great!).

 

I know people often think it's sad if you are single over Christmas (lord knows people said that to me a lot, as I was single for a looooong time!), but really, having some vacation time, and the luxury of not having to consider someone else in what you do, can lead to a really cool time - there's loads of good stuff that you can do with yourself (which includes going to the mountains, of course)...

[AliveAndKicking]

The fact that you said "hide" in the mountains leads me to think that it might not be the best thing for you to do. As TS above suggested having a get-together with friends might be a great way to establish a new tradition for the holidays. I think traditions are important so that no matter what happens in life we have something solid to look forward to/hold on to.

 

Had you not said "hide" I'd tell you to go for it. Instead, though, I think you should stay home, have a get-together, and save your vacation time for later when you can embrace the mountains rather than hide in them.

 

Don't hide from the inevitable holidays. Say "Bring it ON!" instead.

 

In any case I wish you a merry Christmas and happy New Year!