hopeless4u Posted December 12, 2009 Posted December 12, 2009 So the next chapter.... The DIY is more or less done, the hospital visit is over (he was fantastic, I have to say) and I kind of caved in last night:o sorry. Not completely caved but as good as....we should of been at our works Christmas party(where we met 2 yrs ago) obviously with hospital we didn't go but I talked him into coming round(yes it was me, didn't take much to talk him into) and I drank to much wine, we talked about nothing much, I read his tarot cards and we ended up intimate:o Not proud of myself but have been thinking all day about it. He rang me this morning to see 'how I was', (testing the ground I'm sure) he was putting up the Christmas lights outside his home(nice an cosy:rolleyes:) Anyway, I'm actually angry at myself for caving in but for the 1st time I'm angry at him, the crap he's spinning his W and the crap he's spinning me! He said last night that he couldn't leave her because it would break her so if he is telling me the truth he is staying because he feels sorry for her! WTF!! I so want to ring her and just say exactly how it is and the **** he has put her through, making her believe he is faithful and honest just to keep her in a M that suits him!! She has said that if they can't make their M work then they need to sort it now while they are both young enough to find someone else but he just keeps dragging it out until he is sure he'll be ok!! Sure there is more going round my head but to angry to get it to make sense!!
sugarmomma Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 Anger is good. I think acceptance is next in the grief process. You have to know that you deserve more than someone else's husband. He just a cakeeater. Kick his ass to the curb. Idid and didn't look back. He didn't deserve someone as wonderful as me. You can get sex anywhere. Good Luck!
OWoman Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 You can get sex anywhere. This is where I think men and women differ. For many men, any sex is "good" sex - after all, they get their end away and that's what it's all about, right? Whereas for many - even most - women, bad sex is worse than no sex at all. And even mediocre sex is bad, because it offers promise but doesn't ultimately deliver. So sure, you can get sex anywhere - but most of it is blah! sex, and who wants that? Far better to cuddle up with your latest toy and a huge stash of log-life batteries - at least there's no one to kick out of bed when you're done. But great sex - truly awesome, mind-blowing, earth-shattering, celestial sex - now THAT is worth something! 1
NEVERINTENDEDTHIS Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 I think being angry is a very good sign H4U. That is where I am right now and I hope to continue to feel this way. Don't beat yourself up over what has happened. Stay mad and stay strong! XOXO
Samantha0905 Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 This is where I think men and women differ. For many men, any sex is "good" sex - after all, they get their end away and that's what it's all about, right? Whereas for many - even most - women, bad sex is worse than no sex at all. And even mediocre sex is bad, because it offers promise but doesn't ultimately deliver. So sure, you can get sex anywhere - but most of it is blah! sex, and who wants that? Far better to cuddle up with your latest toy and a huge stash of log-life batteries - at least there's no one to kick out of bed when you're done. But great sex - truly awesome, mind-blowing, earth-shattering, celestial sex - now THAT is worth something! I'm with you on this.
sugarmomma Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 (edited) But great sex - truly awesome, mind-blowing, earth-shattering, celestial sex - now THAT is worth something! At what cost??? Great sex at the expense of my self worth and self respect? I don't think so! I just ended a r with a guy and it was the best sex ever. Later found out he was still sexing the baby mama. I'll pass and kicked his azz to the curb. I deserve the best!!! Edited December 14, 2009 by sugarmomma 1
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