sonicranger Posted December 12, 2009 Posted December 12, 2009 So having been on here for a week or so, reading and occasionally replying to broaden my horizon, learn a thing or two etc. I'm still curious about this topic. What is the rebound person? Now, I'm not naive about what the rebound chick or guy is. Thats not what I'm asking. I'm asking for some, what would you say, guidelines, as to what the "classic" rebound person is. I've been separated since April and officially divorced for three months. My new girlfriends mother has mentioned that she is my "rebound" to which I kinda got a little bothered. I feel that she and I have a real relationship, we talk about whatever we want, we go out to dinner, I've made her dinner, she's made me dinner, we hold hands, watch movies, walk her dogs...the list goes on and on of what I would consider to be a "normal/real" relationship. So, that is why I am asking. Is there something that I may or may not be doing that exhibits this "rebound" characteristic. I truly believe that I've learned A LOT from my ex-wife and our relationship and I'm doing my best to apply that, with my natural god given abilities to be in a successful relationship with someone new. I will also point out that my new girlfriend and I have discussed various aspects of my previous life, my ex, etc. As we have done about her previous relationship. She told me that it is clear to her that I am over my ex and still not emotionally attached. So the issue doesn't appear to bother her, just her mother and it might not even bother her mom, it could just be that she's being overprotective etc. and doesn't want her daughter to get hurt by some divorced guy just looking for a good time with HER daughter. Ok I'm done ranting...your ideas please!
harmfulsweetz Posted December 12, 2009 Posted December 12, 2009 Classically, the rebound is someone who gets out of an R, or M or whatever, and looks for some fun with someone else,right? I don't think you sound like you fit the profile. She could just be being overprotective. She may expect that you aren't over your exW, and just wants to watch out and warn her daughter of this fact. Once she realizes that you are, and are also treating her daughter well, I'm sure she'll find it a non-issue.
LovieDove24 Posted December 19, 2009 Posted December 19, 2009 From my experience a "typical" rebound is one where it feels like a rebound for one or both parties involved. I got myself involved with a guy who I knew was not over his ex, against my better judgment, and yep it came back to bite me. So how did I know he was rebounding? Several signs: comparisons to the ex, random quips about the ex ("Oh she loved shoe shopping"), and an overall lack of commitment. Why is your current gf's mom saying these things? Im guessing she is basing it on a timeline and experiences from her past and nothing more. Three months out of a divorce is not as "solid" as three years. People assume they know how long it takes a person to heal, learn, grow. And besides, what mother doesn't like to add her unwelcome two cents of wisdom from time to time, ya know?
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