anp1021 Posted December 12, 2009 Posted December 12, 2009 (edited) I began dating my now live-in boyfriend 2 1/2 years ago. Within weeks after we began dating he did cocaine in front of me. To say the least I completely flipped out. I gave him the ultimatum then and there that I would leave him if he ever touched that stuff again. He promised me that he would stop and never do it again. All was good with that situation up until a couple months ago. There's this totally trashy bar in our town that known as a "coke bar." When my boyfriend begins drinking he stops in for a drink. So, last night we had drinks and he asks me to later take him to the "coke bar." When we pull up he tells me to wait in the car and he'll call when he's ready. I say no way that's a drug bar and he swears to me that me loves me and hasn't touched cocaine. So shortly after we go in he has to use the bathroom (gone for like 10 minutes in there). When he comes out he wipes his nose, but I'm confused because he's had a cold lately. So, we're talking and this guy walks up and says to my BF, "Dude, look what you did to my shirt. You just hillbilly hawked on me." This man was wearing a black shirt and had what appeared to be cocaine spots towards the bottom. I didn't know what to think. Then my BF leans over and says something to the guy like "Shut up that my girl here." This man just kept standing that with cocaine powder on his shirt saying looking what you did to my shirt to my boyfriend. However I'm confused because my BF was acting the same, he was just very drunk and constantly repeating himself. By this time I had enough and left and walked to my BF's mom's house two blocks away. About 30 minutes later my BF shows up and is wondering why I'm mad. He denies the whole situation. I asked him repeatedly who that man was that approached us with coke on his shirt. He just says "what man?" On our way home my boyfriend was very angry at me, he yelled at me and pushed me. But as soon as we got home he went straight to the bedroom and went to sleep. I bought one of those at-home drug tests last night and he told me that he has no problem with taking one. I don't know what to do because he keeps saying that he didn't do anything. I live with my BF and I usually check his pockets when he comes home from going out because I don't want him to relapse. I just need some advice. I've never been around cocaine except for the one time my BF did it in front of me. Am I wrong to throw our almost 3 year relationship away if I find out my BF has been using cocaine? Please, any advice is welcome. Edited December 12, 2009 by anp1021
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