Erinlillian Posted December 12, 2009 Posted December 12, 2009 Ok, So I was in a relationship for 3 years (my only boyfriend) things were good till about 2.5 weeks ago and he started acting wierd. He was on his computer one night and I asked what he was doing, and he said nothing. That night he told me he couldn't imagine life without me, that I am apart of him. I learned last week he was chatting away telling some girls best friend that he is really starting to like her. Before I found this out he broke up with me, told me I deserved better than him, and that I wasn't happy. He is now getting to know her and I think he is already thinking about dating. Long story short, I flipped out on him. He lied about everything with her. I'm just so heart broken because the last year we did everything together, were thinking about getting an apartment together, saw each other everday. He was my bestfriend. I only have one other friend. No one knows how horrible I feel. I contemplated suicide, but knew I couldn't do it. All the things people have told me are "Be thankful your only 19" what is that suppose to me? That what I had with him wasn't true? "Oh you will find someone right away" I hate it ahhh. I want him, but I told him I couldn't watch him be with another girl so I'm not in his life. Just like that. How do I cope? Seriously I need something to do or hear because I'm sick of hearing the cliched remedies.
teanoranges Posted December 12, 2009 Posted December 12, 2009 Be prepared for the pain, but strive to think about positive things in your future. 3 years is a long time so a lot of your plans for the future probably involved him. Start writing down some things you'd like to do on your own, they don't have to be big, and do them. Take some time to mourn him, of course, but work on moving on. Don't do the friend thing no matter what. Try not to beat yourself up either. Its one of those bittersweet things in life you kind of have to embrace. Its a heartbreak that people only feel so many times.. Good luck, and you will survive. I feel like everyone has to get their heart broken by a first love, its kind of a right of passage... like a driver's license.
tVII Posted December 13, 2009 Posted December 13, 2009 "thank god ur onlii 19" means u will be strong after this and so young still. cmon you can do it. its time to start moving forward. find a hobby. boxing helps. gym. but it take effort no matter how bad u feel. get up! much love and i know you can do this.
torranceshipman Posted December 13, 2009 Posted December 13, 2009 Us oldies know that what you are experiencing is heartbreak, just like what it would feel like in your 20's or 30's or 40's (etc). BUT it is pretty cool that you are so young, as you get your whole life ahead of you, and we all know (given our old age, lol) that you have so many romantic adventures and a true love in your future, yet to come, so this breakup will one day completely fade into insignificance. That's all it means...it isn't meant to be minimizing what you are feeling. You did a great thing by going NC and refusing to be in his life as a friend. That'll help you move on. I'd take up some very cool new hobbies and stick to them - hitting the gym, a new sport, a course in something - anything, really, where you can channel your frustrations...anything that makes you feel good about yourself is basically what you need to be concentrating on right now. Now, as boring as this sounds, your bad feelings will lower over time, you will meet a new gorgeous guy at some point then this guy will be history...
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