Hannah86 Posted December 12, 2009 Posted December 12, 2009 Maybe it's the young girl in me that thinks I can change him... I met him at a party last night (Thursday). I noticed him first, I was flirty but he was shy, but as the night went on he bought me drinks and followed me around and was very sweet and funny. At midnight I suggested we split a cab (we live two blocks from each other) and he agreed to, but once we were in the cab we kissed and he told me to just hang out at his house for a while. Since I can walk home easily, and told him this, I agreed. Watched TV on his couch until about 1am, find out we have a mutual friend that is quite close with both of us. As I was getting ready to leave, he begged me to stay and I said I would but that I wasn't going to do anything since I had just met him. Indeed, clothes stayed on although we did kiss more. I wake up to him giving me a back massage and being really cute. Naturally, we both contacted the mutual friend today. She told me that he is pretty void of emotion because his father died within the last 3 years. She said he is unmotivated, his relationships with his friends and girls are very flimsy and to just be very very careful. Regardless, and she told me this point blank, that because she knows me, I might be the perfect girl for him. She told me he asked her about me and she said nice things. (the friend is closer to me than to him) Today, Saturday, he didn't text me until 8pm to see what I was doing. He didn't check in at all to see how my day was going despite how cutesy he was all last night. I told him which bar I was going to and he was too far to meet up, but I took a long time to respond to his texts to give him more room to chase. Now it's 2am and I'm home and he just sent me another text asking me where I am. I told him I'm going to bed, let's see a movie tomorrow, and he says he is busy. Not interested? Is it too early to tell? I feel like the motto is "if you have to wonder, he's not interested" but this guy is a TOTALLY different breed and I like a challenge, and he might be a good match for me, like the friend said. What do you think?
Author Hannah86 Posted December 12, 2009 Author Posted December 12, 2009 Sorry--today is actually FRIDAY not Saturday.
Yukikazi Posted December 12, 2009 Posted December 12, 2009 Why do you 1. think he requires your help to change 2. feel you need someone broken to fix?
Author Hannah86 Posted December 12, 2009 Author Posted December 12, 2009 I'm wildly attracted to him. He is the most attractive guy I've ever seen but still within my league. If he had had a girlfriend before I wouldn't be panicking. Making him my boyfriend would be changing his relationship pattern but not changing his personality or ambition.
Curious-One Posted December 12, 2009 Posted December 12, 2009 God i cant understand why on earth people do this... Take long time to respond to texts or dont respond to texts. How stupid can someone be to actually think you are busy and cant answer a text that takes on average 5-15 seconds to write. If you have to pretend you are busy i feel sorry for you. That is whats wrong with today's relationships..you have to pretend you are busy in order to keep people interested. He is pretending to be busy on a saturday and not texting you until 8pm you are waiting to respond to his texts on purpose. I am willing to bet he is pretending to be busy on a Saturday so he cant meet you. He doesnt want to accept meeting you on a Saturday night because it would make him look like a loser that he didnt have anything planned on a Saturday night. Where do these games stop...even children dont act this way. I am not bashing you in particular , there are many many grown adults that feel they need to do this in order to keep the other sex interested. I had a girl that was literally all over me in class but would take forever to respond to my texts. I gave her 2-3 texts and on one she didnt respond on the other 2 she responded but took forever. I was actually interested in the girl and though i might take her out but after she pulled that on me i deleted her number and barely talked to her in class even though she made the point to sit next to me every time. She was constantly flirting with (playing w hair, looking at me, talking to me, touching me, highfiveing me) but i didnt care.
jerbear Posted December 12, 2009 Posted December 12, 2009 I'm wildly attracted to him. He is the most attractive guy I've ever seen but still within my league. If he had had a girlfriend before I wouldn't be panicking. Making him my boyfriend would be changing his relationship pattern but not changing his personality or ambition. Not necessarily. You making him your Bf may actually change him. He might get more ambitious, more confident, and therefore change his personality. I got an ex-gf to get out of her rut and change her ambition and career path.
BobSacamento Posted December 12, 2009 Posted December 12, 2009 Wow some friend. If I heard a friend was drinking this much haterade about me they'd be crossed of my Christmas list.
Author Hannah86 Posted December 14, 2009 Author Posted December 14, 2009 Update: On Saturday, he ended up texting me to take me up on that movie offer, but timing was bad (I made new plans for the evening) so he took me today (Sunday), and it went well! I am still worried, down the line is it very likely he will have some serious commitment issues if he's never had a girlfriend before? I'm not going to rush into labels--I am good at that, things will take their course--but if he's 27 and has never had a girlfriend, what should I be looking out for? Anyone?
Recommended Posts