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What should I do? I have a dilema - should I get with this girl I don't really respect + she's been around?

 

I have been single for almost a year now. I have an opportunity to get with this girl like sex buddies no strings attatched. But she has been with alot of guys. I keep thinking negative like my ex had sex all year, and I didn't.

But if I get with this one and catch an std I'm really ruined! I always use condoms, always. This girl claims she's clean. Condoms do protect alot, and I wouldn't mind going for it. My principles are holding me back though. I feel like what's the point though? Sometimes I feel like this whole world is ruined and no one has a pure history anymore.

 

The right way would be to keep looking for other girls and move forward. What do you think?

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Skip her and be glad that you don't have to worry about getting an STD from her.

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JaggedRoad, thanks! I don't think she even has one, but you never know.

 

They say before you sleep with someone ask - Do I respect this person? Would I want her to have my kids? Do I wantto be like this person? All of these are a no. Yet my sex drive is saying yes. That's lust. I need to chill out.

NopeNah Established Member

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It's only sex.. I say doooo it!!! ;)

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Even if you could be guaranteed that the sex will the best you've ever had or will ever have in the future...before you make your final decision, it may be wise to also consider if/how it will negatively impact your SELF-respect to sleaze around hang out with people whom you do not respect.

 

Are you okay abandoning yourself (your principles and values) to have sex with someone you don't respect?

Will you be okay with yourself, getting into a 'thing' where, potentially (most likely?), you're going to end up resenting her sexual history and feeling like crap because of it?

 

It's great to use condoms to protect your penis / physical health...but your mental-emotional parts ALSO need your care and protection. No?

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dude unless she has herps... wrap up and you'll be fine...

 

in terms of emotional, if you want to have sex not to spite your ex but cause you want too, just do it! who cares....

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